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How To Make Better Decisions To Get The Outcomes You Want

If your life is filled with stress and an overall sense of unhappiness, you may be unknowingly making decisions that are hurting you in ways that you don’t even realize.

Picture a funnel for a moment. A funnel can be a great visualization of what happens when you make a decision. The stem (the small opening) represents the choice you have before you. The mouth (the wide part) represents the outcomes that manifest because of those choices.

I like that visualization because a choice stems from a thought that leads to an action that could lead to massive change in your life. Your choice “funnels” out into the world, affecting you and everything in it sometimes.

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One Way to Turn Anger and Upset Around

If you find yourself angry or upset with someone in your life, I made up this short “emotion inversion” process to help you come to a different understanding of the situation and what you are truly upset about.

To “invert” an emotion is to take back the control it has over you. If you feel trapped by the grip of a negative emotion, regaining control of that emotion will give you back your power and maybe even give you the opportunity to cause the emotion to go away completely. [Read more…]

Controlling upset toward others – Feeding dysfunctional people – Full commitment then re-evaluation

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Controlling upset toward others – Feeding dysfunctional people – Full commitment then re-evaluation

February 18, 2018

When you get angry, frustrated or upset toward someone else, how quickly do you recover? Would you like to recover faster and get into a better space?

In segment one, I go over the five questions you can ask yourself that might just bring you out of the bad feeling you’re in. For segment two, I share how you might be feeding the dysfunctions of others in your life. If you feed someone else’s dysfunction, they’ll continue to show up in a way you don’t like over and over again.

In segment three, I talk about commitment and how just because you signed up for life, doesn’t mean you have to see it through – especially if the person you’re with has changed the rules and isn’t keeping up with their end of the bargain.

10 Steps to Keep Your Relationship from Slipping into Dysfunction

If your relationship has gone through its ups and downs but is now on a good path to prosper, you’ll probably want to keep it that way.

Here are ten steps you can take to make sure your relationship stays healthy and continues to blossom. For more of an in-depth look at each step, listen to the episode attached to this post.

(after you read this article, be sure to tune into the Love and Abuse podcast for advice on how to avoid toxic behavior in relationships)

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