Advice about anxiety, anger, sadness and other emotional issues on the internet seems to be the same where ever you look:
Think positively, breathe, count to 10, etc.
I’m generalizing, of course, but many times, it’ll seem like you’re reading the same article over and over again, as if the information is just being passed from blog to blog.
But, what would happen if you turned the advice around and did the opposite?
Funny thing is, that’s how I developed some of the tools I use and teach. I just take “normal” advice and do the opposite to see what happens. Surprisingly, this seems to work more often than not.
In another segment, I talk about a letter I got from a woman who “has it all together.” She found a great relationship, but then the guy left for seemingly no reason. Now she feels hurt, unlovable, and unwanted, and isn’t sure if her pain is from the past before the relationship started, or from the breakup itself.
This is a loaded episode. Hope it brings you value.
 | Paul Colaianni Paul Colaianni is an Emotional Abuse Expert and Behavior and Relationship Specialist who has been analyzing complex relationship dynamics since 2010. As the creator of the Healed Being program and host of the top-rated Love and Abuse and The Overwhelmed Brain podcasts, with over 21 million downloads worldwide, he specializes in helping people recognize hidden manipulation, navigate emotionally abusive relationships, and empower themselves to make informed decisions. |
