When you sign up for a relationship, you sign up for who they are now. But are you signing up for who you hope they’ll be as well?
Are there expectations that should be met when it comes to a relationship? And if they aren’t met, do you have every right to demand they be met, “or else?”
Sometimes we need to revisit the contract we signed getting into a relationship and what it means for us if who we thought they were isn’t really who they are.
![]() | Paul Colaianni Paul Colaianni is an Emotional Abuse Expert and Behavior and Relationship Specialist who has been analyzing complex relationship dynamics since 2010. As the creator of the Healed Being program and host of the top-rated Love and Abuse and The Overwhelmed Brain podcasts, with over 21 million downloads worldwide, he specializes in helping people recognize hidden manipulation, navigate emotionally abusive relationships, and empower themselves to make informed decisions. |


