Black or white thinking can lead you to be untrusting of people and the world in general.
If you’ve loved and lost and cannot figure out how to love as deeply as you once did, it could be a general distrust you carry around – seeing people as either safe or not safe. If you cannot be vulnerable, a difficult thing to achieve after pain or betrayal, you may not be able to rebuild the emptiness in your heart.
Dichotomous thinking can keep you from unlocking your heart to anyone else.
![]() | Paul Colaianni Paul Colaianni is an Emotional Abuse Expert and Behavior and Relationship Specialist who has been analyzing complex relationship dynamics since 2010. As the creator of the Healed Being program and host of the top-rated Love and Abuse and The Overwhelmed Brain podcasts, with over 21 million downloads worldwide, he specializes in helping people recognize hidden manipulation, navigate emotionally abusive relationships, and empower themselves to make informed decisions. |


