What happens when you reach that age where you thought you would have accomplished certain things in life but are nowhere close to what you set out to do 10, 20, 30, or more years ago? Do you get depressed? Do you have a mid-life crisis?
Or… maybe you see that there’s a bigger plan in the works for your life. If that’s too spiritual a view for you, perhaps it’s time to come to terms with your fears and accept realities you don’t want to accept.
It sounds dismal and defeating thinking this way, but what if the path to the life you’ve always wanted is ready to open up for you if you just accept what you fear most? And what if acceptance of what is awful is what gets you out of the rut? Lots to talk about in this first segment.
In segment two, I read a letter from someone who wants to know how to walk the fine line between spouse and consoler. If you find yourself being a caretaker and therapist in your relationship, along with a loving partner, you may not know where to draw the line and at what point taking care of your partner is actually taking care away from you.
There is a fine line between being a partner and being your partner’s therapist, and I attempt to address just how to create that balance in your relationship like this (especially if your partner has had trauma or abuse in their past).
During the close of the show, I talk about how when you’ve gone through a breakup, and you are still grasping at straws, hoping your partner will return, there’s an acceptance that needs to happen within you so that if they do come back you aren’t bringing the old you back into the relationship.
Acceptance of what “is” heals and helps you get ready for your next relationship, whether it is with your ex or not.
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 | Paul Colaianni Paul Colaianni is an Emotional Abuse Expert and Behavior and Relationship Specialist who has been analyzing complex relationship dynamics since 2010. As the creator of the Healed Being program and host of the top-rated Love and Abuse and The Overwhelmed Brain podcasts, with over 21 million downloads worldwide, he specializes in helping people recognize hidden manipulation, navigate emotionally abusive relationships, and empower themselves to make informed decisions. |
