Should you receive something in return for everything you give? You bet, but maybe not in the way you’re thinking.
You can build an emotional deficit by giving and giving and not receiving in the way you’d like. Resentment can build and you can get very tired of being a people-pleaser.
Also, I receive a letter from someone who feels socially inept. He can’t make or keep friends, and he feels awkward on dates. Sometimes being yourself is the best solution, but who are you really being during those awkward silences?
Finally, I talk about a woman who is deeply in love with her husband and has a great sex life, yet still cheated anyway. She can’t figure out why so I explore why even a good marriage or relationship experiences infidelity.
 | Paul Colaianni Paul Colaianni is an Emotional Abuse Expert and Behavior and Relationship Specialist who has been analyzing complex relationship dynamics since 2010. As the creator of the Healed Being program and host of the top-rated Love and Abuse and The Overwhelmed Brain podcasts, with over 21 million downloads worldwide, he specializes in helping people recognize hidden manipulation, navigate emotionally abusive relationships, and empower themselves to make informed decisions. |
“It’s really hard to connect from the level of.. “fake it till you make it”.”
What a brilliant exceptional statement of truth these words are to me. I think there’s everything in this chapter to better help me understand my life up to the point of re-living them with the ability to enjoy everything I already have but so much better. I haven’t yet reached even the minimum level of expressing the volume of my gratitude to having been exposed to what you share. My deep thanks, dear Paul.
You just made my day in more ways than one. 🙂 You are welcome and thank you for taking the time to comment here. I appreciate you Tal!