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My Partner Changed But Is It Too Late – Guilt About Leaving the Marriage – More Manipulative People

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My Partner Changed But Is It Too Late – Guilt About Leaving the Marriage – More Manipulative People
My Partner Changed But Is It Too Late – Guilt About Leaving the Marriage – More Manipulative People
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My Partner Changed But Is It Too Late – Guilt About Leaving the Marriage – More Manipulative People
August 14, 2016
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In this episode, I talk a little more about manipulative people and share with you what might make them that way in the first place.

Association and dissociation may play a role in their behavior. If you’re not familiar with those terms, you will be after this episode.

And, what if you do a bunch of healing and growth but you realize that your partner doesn’t want to change? In fact, what if they’re happy exactly the way they are, dysfunction and all? Accountability may be the only course of action.

In the last segment, I talk about someone who worked hard on their relationship for two years. Their partner finally grows into the person they wanted them to be, but are they still in love? Is it too late now? I get a letter that addresses that very question.

How about guilt for thinking about leaving your abusive spouse? Yes, people can actually develop guilty feelings for thinking about leaving someone that disrespects and even abuses them. That’s an important topic to discuss, so let’s dive into that too.

Click here for the six reasons you may feel guilty for leaving an emotionally abusive partner.

Filed Under: Behavior, Guilt, Human Potential, Manipulation, Negative Emotions, Relationships Tagged With: Guilt About Leaving the Marriage, More Manipulative People, My Partner Changed But Is It Too Late?

The Dysfunction of The New Normal – Offending Defensive People

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The Dysfunction of The New Normal – Offending Defensive People
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The Dysfunction of The New Normal – Offending Defensive People
August 7, 2016
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Has dysfunction become the new normal for you? Are you in a relationship where your tolerance for bad behavior is so high that you don’t even recognize what’s bad for you anymore? That sounds like a topic for discussion if you ask me!

Also, I read a letter from someone who wants to know how to deal with defensive people. There is a path to working with those types, and becoming aggressive or offensive back is not typically the best way to handle their behavior. You may have to become a bit of a sleuth. I talk about that and more in today’s episode.

Filed Under: Behavior, Human Potential, Negative Emotions, Personal Boundaries, Relationships Tagged With: Offending Defensive People, The Dysfunction of The New Normal

Where There’s Shame There’s Strength

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strength in vulnerabilityOne of the hardest steps in any personal growth journey is the leap into vulnerability. To expose your fear, shame, guilt, embarrassment and other emotional wounds to the world, you risk judgment, ridicule and even rejection. Even the word itself means the ability to be injured or wounded. Why would anyone ever want to go there?

Because vulnerability is a path to happiness and freedom. When you choose to be honest about what’s going on inside of you with someone else, that’s being vulnerable. When you face punishment, knowing it will hurt, that’s vulnerable. When you fess up and admit that you’re wrong, that’s being vulnerable.  [Read more…]

Filed Under: Behavior, Human Potential, Negative Emotions, Relationships Tagged With: emotional core, strength, vulnerability

Strength in Vulnerability – What if Divorce is a Mistake? – Never Happy Without Someone Else in my Life

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Strength in vulnerability – What if divorce is a mistake? – Never happy without someone else in my life
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Strength in vulnerability – What if divorce is a mistake? – Never happy without someone else in my life
July 31, 2016
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Vulnerability is the final step toward your strength. Your emotional core contains all of your emotions, your shame, fear, guilt, embarrassment, and sadness, but also your joy, happiness, peace, and a lot of other good feelings too.

In childhood, we learn to close off that core and only let in and out so much because we’ve been emotionally wounded. Letting those defensive walls come down lets both the bad and the good out, but only the good sticks around when you do it right.

Also, I read a letter from a woman who doesn’t want anything to change except maybe her marriage, but that means a lot of other things have to change as well. So she’s not sure if getting a divorce is the right decision.

Finally, I read a second email from a 24-year-old who has chosen a career path that he is unhappy with. On top of that, his girlfriend left him and he is not happy unless someone else is in his life. Lots to talk about today. Thanks for listening!

Filed Under: Behavior, Divorce, Human Potential, Negative Emotions, Relationships, Vulnerability Tagged With: Never Happy Without Someone Else in my Life, Strength in Vulnerability, What if Divorce is a Mistake?

The Choice to Confront – Release the Pressure of Negativity – Can Long Distance Love Work?

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The choice to confront – Release the pressure of negativity – can long distance love work
July 17, 2016
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Confrontation can feel dangerous. It can cause anxiety, fear, and panic. But why?

Why would we fear expressing our true thoughts and feelings to anyone in our lives?

If your repress what you want to express, you probably have a challenge confronting people. But what happens to all that emotional energy that builds up that never gets released because you never confronted it? There are ways to dissipate that energy that I share in this episode. 

In the final segment, I read a letter from a woman who left her ex-husband behind because she was learning, growing, and evolving, but he was staying where he was. She was energetic, he was not.

The rift kept widening between them so she left. Now she’s happy, but she’s in another relationship where her loved one is 1000 miles away and neither of them can move. Can long-distance relationships work?

Filed Under: Behavior, Human Potential, Negative Emotions, Relationships Tagged With: Can Long Distance Love Work?, Release the Pressure of Negativity, The Choice to Confront

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