In crisis, is there anything you can do to bring you into a calmer, more peaceful place?
Actually, not usually. In fact, you may have to experience the full impact of the crisis before any calm or comfort can be had. However, you may be able to prepare for crisis so it doesn’t completely debilitate you.
It involves creating a belief system or philosophy that serves you during this most crucial time so that you aren’t so blindsided and devastated. Then, when you lose your job, get dumped, betrayed, or even if someone you love passes on, you have some tools to work with to get you through it. In this first segment, I share 10 beliefs and principles you can adopt to get you through crisis mode.
In segment 2, I address a letter from a man who was kicked out of his home at 17 years old for being gay. He grew up, got married, and now his husband is looking at other guy’s profiles online threatening the stability home and relationship.
The letter writer doesn’t want to be alone but he doesn’t want his husband looking at other guys either so he’s not sure what to do. With a family that has disowned him and a husband that appears to want to seek other relationships, he feels stuck and scared.
Is it unhealthy to put all the pressure of your happiness on one other person? If you have no family and no support structure, is it even fair to expect your partner / spouse to pull through as your primary source of peace in the world? I offer my insights and opinions to help him through this situation. I also make a few comments on the decision of a family to kick their child out of the house because he is homosexual.
In the final segment, I talk about building resilience through criticism. Taking things personally can slow you down and even stop you in your tracks. If you learn that criticism is an opportunity to grow, regardless if the critic is right or wrong, you’ll find life a lot easier to live.