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Acceptance and Grieving the Breakup

July 10, 2016 By Paul Colaianni 2 Comments

One of the hardest life events to get over is a breakup or loss of someone we love.

When my wife left me, I was devastated. I was completely in shock and had no idea what to do. I actually fell to the floor and cried like a baby. That’s embarrassing to admit, but I’m willing to bet you understand what that’s like.

I felt truly loved and cherished by her. She was someone who finally understood me and loved me unconditionally, and I was losing her. I was angry and sad, and felt like I was being abandoned.

I was in a state of complete hopelessness.

I also came to the conclusion that she didn’t believe in marriage like I did. After all, how could she throw it all away? Why wouldn’t she work harder at this? In my head, I asked her, “Isn’t marriage important to you?” [Read more…]

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Filed Under: Abandonment, Behavior, Divorce, Human Potential, Marriage, Negative Emotions, Rejection, Relationships Tagged With: couples counseling, divorce, how to accept the breakup, how to get over the sadness of breaking up, marriage trouble, relationships

The 10 Components of a Satisfying, Loving Relationship – Part 1

July 19, 2015 By Paul Colaianni 1 Comment

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There are probably hundreds of components that make up a great relationship, but I’m going to address some of the ones that make the biggest difference.

Whether a friendship, family, or intimate partner, when you adopt and include these components in your relationships, they will improve. But, just like I mention in the show, things go a lot better when the other people in your relationships also include them too.

When it’s one sided, it doesn’t go too far. But when it works, it can be completely satisfying and enjoyable. [Read more…]

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Filed Under: Behavior, Divorce, Family, Human Potential, Marriage, Negative Emotions, Passion, Relationships Tagged With: friendship, intimacy, relationships

When Others Aren’t Ready for you to Evolve

April 5, 2015 By Paul Colaianni 4 Comments

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learn heal grow evolve personal growth teacher tony robbinsUnfortunately, the more we grow and evolve, the more others who aren’t ready to do the same will want us to stay the same. If you’re around friends and family who just can’t seem to get on board with you getting healthier, what do you do? Do you just pretend to be the same old person you always were around them just to keep them happy? Or do you embrace this new you and leave it up to them to get used to the new you?

Important questions, especially since we all know at least one person that probably doesn’t support our evolution. Is there an easy path where everyone can get along magically? Nope. But there is a path, and that’s what I’ll be talking about today.

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Filed Under: Behavior, Career, Human Potential, Negative Emotions, Personal Boundaries, Relationships Tagged With: family, personal boundaries, personal growth, relationships

Live Couple’s Coaching Session – Disrespect and Hysteria! Part 2

March 1, 2015 By Paul Colaianni Leave a Comment

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couples coaching relationship marriage counseling therapyIn part 2 of this couple’s coaching session, we wrap up the lessons from part 1 and close up any loops (unfinished or unresolved problems) that may be left open.

Michael still feels that Daria is leaving him out of her decisions and wants to know how he can get over this feeling. It appears Daria is just making plans to move out and Michael has fears because of it. We address those fears and discuss what’s really happening.

Today’s special mention:  fulldisclosurefitness.com. If you want to lose weight and learn the facts, listen to this great physical fitness podcast! [Read more…]

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Judgment – The Ultimate Relationship Destroyer

November 8, 2014 By Paul Colaianni 2 Comments

Judgment can be one of the most damaging weapons in a relationship. It tells your partner that it’s not okay to be themselves.

This builds resentment in them and will eventually corrode even the most intimate relationships.

Even if your relationship survives the corrosive effect of judgment, it still suffers.

This article explains how your emotional triggers form your judgments and how judging those closest to you can make you and everyone else around you miserable.

Judgment truly is the ultimate relationship destroyer. [Read more…]

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