One of the hardest life events to get over is a breakup or loss of someone we love.
When my wife left me, I was devastated. I was completely in shock and had no idea what to do. I actually fell on the floor crying like a baby. That’s embarrassing to admit, but I bet you understand what that’s like.
I felt truly loved and cherished by her. She was someone who finally understood me, loved me unconditionally, and I was losing her. I was angry and sad and felt like I was being abandoned.
I felt hopeless.
I also felt like I was the only one who believed in marriage. How could she throw it all away? Why not work harder at this? I thought, “Isn’t marriage important to you?” [Read more…]
I received an email from a woman I’ll call “Jenny”. Jenny is in quite an unempowering situation, being married to a man that simply doesn’t care about her. He makes decisions without her, he dismisses her, he disrespects her, and basically does anything he wants and also expects her to do what he wants. 
I received an email from a woman who’s husband cheated on her, then made her life a living hell during the divorce. She is depressed and has lost her desire for most things in life. Is there a solution to all of this? How do you get from defeated and controlled to empowered and in control when you’re going through a long, dirty divorce? 
Forgiveness is not about other people, it’s about you. When you can learn to forgive yourself, even when you aren’t the one to blame, you let go of the negative emotions so that you can take the learnings into your future.
Can you accept the behaviors of those you love? If not, are you still in the relationship?