I often work with clients who’ve been to couple’s therapy but are still stuck where they are in the relationship. In fact, most of the time one partner is “fine” while the other is not. I’ve often found that the one who is not fine is also the one who is trying harder to save the relationship.
Sometimes I am puzzled when I see that the “fine” partner doesn’t see anything wrong, and points the finger at the other person.
“She’s the one with the problem!” or
“He’s the one that gets upset!”
If comments like that have ever come out of your partner’s mouth during a therapy session, then you are most likely in a troubling situation. [Read more…]
One of the issues some of my 
I received an email from a woman who’s husband cheated on her, then made her life a living hell during the divorce. She is depressed and has lost her desire for most things in life. Is there a solution to all of this? How do you get from defeated and controlled to empowered and in control when you’re going through a long, dirty divorce? 
There’s no escaping the sometimes hard to deal with arguments, tension, and turmoil that can go on in a relationship. I received an email on this topic, and in this article, I cover everything from personal boundaries to irrational people. 
Relationships end, unfortunately. But sometimes what you think is the hardest part (the breakup) turns out to be tame compared to what follows. Your ex may not want it to end so they do things that make you uncomfortable. Or, the one you “dumped” is still friends with your friends and family, so the ties are harder to break and the distance harder to attain. What do you do when this kind of stuff happens? I address a couple of emails asking these very questions on today’s episode.