The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers

The Toxic Episode – Toxic Relationships, Validating Toxic Friends, Enabling Toxic Behavior

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The Toxic Episode – The toxic relationship – Validating toxic friends – Enabling Toxic Behavior
The Toxic Episode – The toxic relationship – Validating toxic friends – Enabling Toxic Behavior
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The Toxic Episode – The toxic relationship – Validating toxic friends – Enabling Toxic Behavior
December 4, 2016

Toxic relationships: Friends, family, coworkers, and more – What can you do if you can’t get away from them? Do you even know how to get away from them? How can you continue a relationship when you have no choice but to be with a toxic person? This episode gets into how to deal with toxic people in your life.

Also, I read what a reviewer said about my show: Stay Away! 

What do you think, should you stay away? I’m not here to defend the show or tell you what to listen to, I’d rather you come to your own conclusion and make the decision from there. I’m honored when someone takes the time to provide reviews for the show, even bad ones, it tells me they actually care about their own personal growth and want the best for themselves. Plus, they are genuinely expressing themselves, something I promote and encourage everyone to do!

The Spiritual Lessons Connecting the Past to Present – Letting Family Hit Rock Bottom – Alone on the Holidays

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The Spiritual Lessons Connecting the Past to Present – Letting Family Hit Rock Bottom – Alone on the Holidays
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The Spiritual Lessons Connecting the Past to Present – Letting Family Hit Rock Bottom – Alone on the Holidays
November 27, 2016

There’s a spiritual or philosophical correlation between an event that happened to you in your past and what is happening to you today.

You may not recognize the significance of your behavior today, but when you are able to make the connection between present behavior and prior emotional events, it’s like plugging a lamp into a socket and watching light fill the room. 

The circuit between the past and the present becomes linked and negative emotions can diminish or disappear. It sounds a bit “out there” but there is a process to go through if you want to try it out yourself.

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Is It Selfish or Self-Sustaining? – The Mom Who Wasn’t There – Obsession About Partner’s History

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Selfish or self-sustaining? – The mom who wasn’t there for me – Obsession about my partner’s history
Selfish or self-sustaining? – The mom who wasn’t there for me – Obsession about my partner’s history
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Selfish or self-sustaining? – The mom who wasn’t there for me – Obsession about my partner’s history
November 13, 2016

What is acceptable to you, and what is not?
What is considered self-sustaining, and what is selfish?

I read an email from someone who’s in a constant battle in his mind, unsure if he’s honoring his personal boundaries or just being completely self-serving. He also gets into a debate and overanalyzes to the point of indecision.

There’s a way to decide, and it involves the question: What what you do if you were completely fearless or unafraid of the consequences?

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Starting the Healing Process From Child Sexual Abuse

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Begin Healing From Childhood Sexual Abuse
Begin Healing From Childhood Sexual Abuse
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Begin Healing From Childhood Sexual Abuse
November 6, 2016

Welcome Home Fiona music video by Asha Lightbearer

In this special episode of The Overwhelmed Brain, I talk with abuse survivor, songwriter, and my partner, Asha Lightbearer, about the realizations of her sexual abuse and what you can do to start your healing today.

If you aren’t a childhood sexual abuse survivor, you know one.

Survivors of childhood sexual abuse may not even be aware that they are a survivor. I had no clue that what I went through as a child, the trauma of receiving an enema at seven years old was considered a sexual violation. It was prescribed by a doctor and administered by a member of my family, so it sounded like a completely legitimate medical procedure that should have only caused a minor discomfort.

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Do You Invest Too Much Into Your Relationship?

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I received an email from someone who is still obsessed over his ex even though they broke up long ago. Not in a “stalkerish” kind of way, but in a “I’m hurt and can’t stop thinking about her” kind of way. He cries almost daily and can’t get over the loss. According to him, she was everything he wanted in a girl.

He invested his time, energy, and emotions into the relationship, and even though it seemed to be going well, she decided to emotionally close off from him.

Eventually, they split. Since then, he has been unhappy. 

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