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The Everyday Bully and Bullying Behavior

The Everyday Bully and Bully Behavior
The Everyday Bully and Bully Behavior
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The Everyday Bully and Bully Behavior
May 17, 2015
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Bullies come in all shapes and sizes and have all kinds of mannerisms that different people give different names for.

In my opinion, anytime someone wants you to feel bad or forces you to do something against your will, it is bullying.

I recently realized that I was a bully in my marriage. This led to some interesting insights I share in this episode. That, along with learning about how the typical bully ticks (and some things you can do to avoid being a victim of bullying) is what I talk about today.

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When Others Aren’t Ready for you to Evolve

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Unfortunately, the more we grow and evolve, the more others who aren’t ready to do the same will want us to stay the same. If you’re around friends and family who just can’t seem to get on board with you getting healthier, what do you do?

Do you just pretend to be the same old person you always were around them just to keep them happy?

Or do you embrace this new you and leave it up to them to get used to the new you?

Important questions, especially since we all know at least one person that probably doesn’t support our evolution. Is there an easy path where everyone can get along magically? Nope. But there is a path, and that’s what I’ll be talking about today.

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10 Life Lessons You Should Already Know – Part 2

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Part 1 here.

So many of us simply live day to day, trying to make the next day as good as the last, or better. The day-to-day can be fulfilling or grueling. If it’s the latter, it’s possible that there is a primal need at your deepest level that is not getting fulfilled.

If that’s the case, it will be harder to attain the peace and balance you may be looking for.

This article covers lessons five through ten, and helps you understand what you may need to focus on to create a happier life for yourself.

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10 Life Lessons You Should Already Know – Part 1

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life lessonsSo many of us simply live day to day, trying to make the next day as good as the last or better. The day-to-day can be fulfilling, or it can be grueling.

If it’s the latter, it’s possible that there is a primal need at your deepest level not getting fulfilled. If that’s the case, it will be harder to attain the peace and balance you may be looking for.

This article covers the first five of the lessons and helps you understand what you may need to focus on to create a happier life for yourself. [Read more…]

Codependency: The Subtle Erosion of Love and Connection

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Codependence is when two or more people fulfill a need for each other that strengthens a dysfunction between them.

You’ll often see this kind of dynamic between several different types of people:

  • The Rescuer and the Addict
  • The People-Pleaser and the Abuser
  • The Highly Sensitive and the Insensitive

There are many more types and they all have a complimentary nature to them. Recognizing them is usually fairly easy as well. Just look for someone who seems to give a lot to the relationship but never receives enough. Toxic relationships such as this almost always build resentment because the giver becomes tired of always trying to satisfy the needs of the taker. 

It’s the perfect imbalance of love and energy.

No matter what type of codependent relationship it is, the theme is usually the same: The dysfunctional behavior of one person supports the dysfunctional behavior of another.

Important: If you believe that you may be doing emotionally abusive behavior and would like to change that about yourself, sign up for the life-changing Healed Being program over at healedbeing.com).

If you are currently in a relationship with someone who is codependent and is hurtful to you, listen to my podcast Love and Abuse to help you navigate through the difficulties.

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