The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers

Dealing With the Victim Mentality

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There are true victims in the world, then there are chronic complainers who keep themselves in a victimized state closing the door to progress, healing and growth.

It could have started in childhood or sprung up when they were older, but those who have a victim mentality know one thing for sure: Nothing ever works out for them.

This belief system keeps them in a rut and prevents them from seeing options that could be right in front of them.

Are you or someone you know a self-perpetuating victim? 

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Empowerment Through Vulnerability

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vulnerabilityEmotions rise up from our core, where we are both most vulnerable and powerful. When we can live from this core place inside of us we can be authentic. When that happens we are empowered to be our true selves.

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Releasing Emotional Triggers in Relationships

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Emotional triggers are the surprises that we get when someone we love or a situation causes us to have a reaction that we haven’t processed yet.

For example, if you were yelled at as a child and you attached being yelled at to fear, you might get triggered as an adult when you are near someone yelling.

Triggers are typically childhood beliefs that aren’t necessarily true anymore and need to be addressed to save your relationships. Once you release your old triggers, you can view the world from an entirely different place instead of through the eyes of a fearful child.

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How to Give to Others Without Giving Up Too Much of Yourself

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I remember receiving my very first fan letter from a listener named Fran. She’d been with the show since episode one, quietly supporting from the sidelines.

Her email said my podcast was the most meaningful one she’d ever found, that it made common sense to her in a way other shows didn’t.

I honestly thought it was a scam at first. I’d never received a fan letter before and didn’t know how to react.

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The Challenge and Freedom of Forgiveness

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Forgiveness carries immense power. Some people carry the pain of unforgiveness their entire lives. The thought of letting someone get away with something, or admitting they’re over it, can override their desire to move on and be happy.

What is forgiveness, really? Is it telling someone else, “You were right, and I was wrong”? Is it showing another person that what they did was forgivable? Is it something else entirely?

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