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Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers

Email Grab Bag 4 – Rising toleration of bad behavior, from victim to victor, porn ruining the relationship

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Email Grab Bag 4 – Rising toleration of bad behavior, from victim to victor, porn ruining the relationship
Email Grab Bag 4 – Rising toleration of bad behavior, from victim to victor, porn ruining the relationship
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Email Grab Bag 4 – Rising toleration of bad behavior, from victim to victor, porn ruining the relationship
September 26, 2021
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I read three emails from people in three different circumstances. The first one is about a troubled marriage where the wife doesn’t know why she is staying and can’t figure out how to make the decision to leave.

Segment two is about dealing with the victim mentality and what questions you can ask a chronic complainer in order to get them to do something about what they’re complaining about.

Segment three is about a wife who discovered her husband watches porn and since then their once happy, amazing marriage is now in shambles with little hope for the future. Lots to talk about in this episode!

Just how deep do you have to dig to heal unresolved issues?

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Just how deep do you have to dig to heal unresolved issues?
Just how deep do you have to dig to heal unresolved issues?
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Just how deep do you have to dig to heal unresolved issues?
September 5, 2021
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The past can wreak havoc on the present, especially on your relationships. If therapy, reading, watching videos, and learning all you can about how to improve and heal isn’t working, sometimes you need to dig so deep that break down the wall that’s hiding the true source of pain underneath. At that point, healing can begin.

When bad things keep happening to you

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When bad things keep happening to you
When bad things keep happening to you
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When bad things keep happening to you
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Changing how you respond to and cope with challenges can improve your relationships and life overall. When you’re getting the same bad results over and over again, it might be time for a new perspective to help you create better outcomes. 

When times are tough, things will change. When times are tough, they sometimes get tougher and sometimes get better. And when they don’t get better, they might stay pretty bad for a while.

These aren’t happy truths. They’re real truths. They are reality.

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Disarming people who disempower you

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Disarming people that disempower you
Disarming people that disempower you
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Disarming people that disempower you
November 1, 2020
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In this article, I explore the essential mental tools for effectively dealing with snarky or hurtful individuals. These tools aim to disarm those who seek to emotionally manipulate you, leaving them puzzled when you don’t react as they expect.

Inspired by an email from a listener, I’ll share my own ‘communications toolbox,’ a set of strategies designed to facilitate empowering and non-confrontational conversations with negative people.

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Obsessing about people

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Obsession is a potent force, a relentless pursuit that can consume our thoughts, behaviors, and even our lives. It’s a desperate longing that often disregards the clear signs of failure.

I know this because I’ve been there. I’ve been obsessed, and it’s not a place I would wish anyone to be.

When I was younger, I found myself in the throes of obsessive thinking more than once. My first girlfriend, my second girlfriend, my wife – all were subjects of my obsessive thoughts.

I would follow them, physically and mentally, recording their every move in my mind. I would look them up online, trying to piece together a bigger picture, hoping to find a crack in the door that I could slip through.

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