When obsessive and intrusive thoughts won’t go away, what can you do?
You might feel better knowing that won’t mean a thing in a hundred years, but if resolving them isn’t that easy for you, then let me take you through a series of steps that break them apart and repackage them in a way that might just help you deal with yours.
In this segment, I’ll ask you what’s wrong with having obsessive thoughts, why are they a problem, and if there’s anything you can do about what you’re obsessing over. I’ll also talk about your resistance to them and how it causes you to suffer. If you have been suffering from that negative internal dialogue, listen to this episode.
In segment 2, a woman asks me what happens when you remove all the toxic people in your life and you end up with no friends or romantic partner? She wants to know if that’s all she has to look forward to when she grows and heals herself. Is everyone toxic? The personal growth journey does involve filtering out toxic people, but it also involves focusing on yourself.
When you start focusing on what you need for yourself, the right people show up in your life. You recognize toxic people right away and are able to steer clear. But better than that, healthy people show up when you’re healthy, so that is the focus of this segment.
During the close of this episode, I read another letter from a listener whose wife cheated on him. He decided to forgive and take her back, but now she’s giving him the silent treatment and making excuses about why the marriage won’t work. Is there more going on here than meets the eye? I give a frank opinion on the subject.
 | Paul Colaianni Paul Colaianni is an Emotional Abuse Expert and Behavior and Relationship Specialist who has been analyzing complex relationship dynamics since 2010. As the creator of the Healed Being program and host of the top-rated Love and Abuse and The Overwhelmed Brain podcasts, with over 21 million downloads worldwide, he specializes in helping people recognize hidden manipulation, navigate emotionally abusive relationships, and empower themselves to make informed decisions. |
