Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers
Not everyone is going to like what you bring to the table. Sometimes people have high expectations of you and when you don’t deliver, it causes them to have a critical view of you. Is this your fault or the fault of the person who set up expectations that you couldn’t meet?
I read a critical review of The Overwhelmed Brain and talk about that very thing today. They’re not always “haters” but they can ruin our day. God-like teachers, the decision to stay or leave, and more… [Read more…]
It’s a question to ponder, where do your loyalties lie, and what should you do with a secret you are committed to keeping?
Are you at a job that feels like you are being dominated or controlled? Is there a way out of this without quitting?
There may be. I got a response from a listener who wrote before. They took my advice about her work situation and everything turned out for the better. Controlling bosses no longer drove her mad.
What keeps you at work you don’t like anyway? What’s motivating you to stay miserable?
In another segment, I talk about depression. Why does depression kick in so hard? And why is it so challenging to get back out of it once you’re in it?
No joy, no pain, no feeling at all. Even suicidal thoughts can come into play. Or sometimes you’re so apathetic you don’t even care about that.
In this episode, I talk about a small door, or portal, out of depression.
In the Ask Paul segment, I read a letter from someone who can’t stop obsessing over her boyfriend’s friendship with his ex-girlfriends and hates it when he talks about other girls in general.
And finally, I end the show with a few words on emotionally disconnected people.
All this personal growth work is great and all, but you have to actually do the work in order for your life to get better.
The main reason for that is because you need feedback from your environment. You test, observe, test again, then take action. You learn through your results.
And in order to change your results, your desire has to overcome the results you’re getting now. If that happens, your life will change a lot easier.
Also in this episode, I read a letter from a mom who feels paralyzed by dysfunctional family members and is scared her child is going to pick up or become dysfunctional because of their bad behavior.
Family can sometimes be toxic, especially around children. Children know right from wrong, even when they’re exposed to toxic stuff, but as long as they have a healthy role model, sometimes the toxicity from others doesn’t rub off on them.
Be the best role model you can be and your child will do much better because of it.
In the last segment, I talk about how a subtle change in your thought can lead to a good outcome or a bad one.
Anger can rise up in you because of a violation of your personal boundaries, but do you even know what your boundaries are?
I like to think of boundaries as your castle walls. And within those walls lies your emotional core where you are most vulnerable yet most powerful at the same time.
Sometimes we feel anger and we aren’t even sure why. This episode will help you learn what your boundaries are so that you know at what point you can be pushed before you “lose it”.
Also, I read an email from someone who got so angry that he forgot what he said while he was in that state. You do have a choice to either utilize anger for your protection or to attack someone else.
[Read more…]A listener calls me out and tells me, “You couldn’t take a couple of minutes to answer me personally?”
I read her message on the air and respond to it. I always do my best to act from a place of integrity but did I mess up this time?
Also, I received an email from someone in a relationship that may not work out. She wants to know how to balance her own personal growth with the work she’s done in her relationship (and not ruin that work). And she also wants to know if she’s done everything she can do before leaving the relationship. ‘Have I turned the last “Falling out of love” stone before I completely give in to the truth?’
When do you really know when you’re out of love?
There’s also another segment on how an Adult Child of an Alcoholic can trust themselves after living a life without it. Self-trust is a process and there is a way to have it again.
