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What’s Missing In My Life?

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If you don’t know what’s missing in your life, then you’ve been asking yourself the wrong question.

Perhaps you should ask “What’s present in my life that’s preventing me from getting what’s missing in my life?”

It may sound like an odd way to ask the question but the way you phrase questions to yourself will dictate how you think about everything. And if you change the way you think, you can change your results.

When you don’t know what’s missing, you don’t know what to focus on to obtain what’s missing. So maybe it’s time to change the questions you ask yourself.

“What’s missing in my life?”

No… How about: “What is in my life right now that, if it were missing, would help me get what I need to feel happy?”

How your phrase your language changes how you think about a problem.

The above question sounds weird on purpose. And in order to understand it, you need to reach inside yourself a little deeper than you normally would. This will help you access your innermost resources that will help you come up with a solution.

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Filed Under: Behavior, Beliefs, Career, Communication, Decisions, Depression, Desires, Fears, Human Potential, Identity, Motivation, Negative Emotions, Passion, People Pleaser, Podcast Episode, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Thinking, Values Tagged With: finding your passion, I am unsatisfied in life, meaning of life, what's missing in my life?, What's the purpose of my life?

Perceptions and Why You Aren’t Always Right

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What you perceive to be true and what is actually true aren’t always the same.

In fact, those two things can be so far removed from each other, you might wonder how you ever thought what you thought in the first place.

You are not always right, this you already know. But what about when you know you’re right and you decide to take action on that “knowledge”?

Who is affected by your behavior when you depend on a belief that may actually be incorrect?

Your perceptions define your reality, and your behavior is based on what you believe to be real. This article is a reminder that what you think is true may just be an alternate reality that you made up. [Read more…]

Filed Under: Behavior, Beliefs, Deception, Decisions, Healthy Thinking, Human Potential, Negative Emotions, Podcast Episode, Toxic Thinking Tagged With: assumptions, beliefs, perception is reality, perceptions

Saying “No” To Someone Reveals Their True Nature

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img-2What kind of response do you get when you need to honor yourself with someone by saying “no” to them? I had to do this once with a business partner, and it was one of the hardest things to do.

It wasn’t just a “No, I can’t help you”, it was a, “Hey, I know we’ve been planning a project together for over a month and a half now, and I know we’re going to have a conference call about it on Sunday, but I need to bow out now. I realize I’m fifty percent of the project, and that without me, you really won’t be able to finish it, at least in a short amount of time, but I have to back out.”

I’ll tell you, it was hard to click send on that email. It was an email instead of a phone call because I really wanted to word my message so it conveyed all my thoughts without interruption.

In a live call or conversation, you could say one word and the entire conversation could go into an emotional spiral. Tempers can flare and your message may never get heard. The only thing that might be conveyed is that you are abandoning them. [Read more…]

Filed Under: Abandonment, Betrayal, Communication, Decisions, Friendships, Human Potential, Personal Boundaries, Rejection, Relationships Tagged With: Saying No, true character

How your needs drive your behavior and motivation

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Are all of your needs met? Do you know why you make the decisions you do?

Our needs motivate our behavior. If you respond to life’s events from a low level of survival, it’ll be more difficult to succeed in a loving relationship or keep steady employment or even gain a level of self-esteem and confidence. Let alone being able to pursue your hobby and passions.  [Read more…]

Filed Under: Behavior, Decisions, Human Potential, Motivation, Passion, Podcast Episode, Relationships Tagged With: How come I don't know my passion?, Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, Why do I do things that don't benefit me?, Why do I make stupid decisions?

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