Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers
A satisfying, loving relationship doesn’t have to be hard, but there are components that need to be included in this type of relationship in order for things to work out well. This is part 2 of a 2-part episode where we talk about the last 5 components.
If you’re still not satisfied with your relationships after listening to part 1, then this episode should wrap things up quite nicely. [Read more…]
There are probably hundreds of components that make up a great relationship, but I’m going to address some of the ones that make the biggest difference.
Whether a friendship, family, or intimate partner, when you adopt and include these components in your relationships, they will improve. But, just like I mention in the show, things go a lot better when the other people in your relationships also include them too.
When it’s one sided, it doesn’t go too far. But when it works, it can be completely satisfying and enjoyable. [Read more…]
When you were a child, whatever fear came up, you figured out a way to survive the moment. These survival skills were very handy in adolescence simply because they worked to keep us alive!
Sure, we probably weren’t going to die, but it felt like it! Then, years later we became adults (well, some of us did 😉 ), and soon we were put into situations that caused similar fears and once again, that old survival mentality kicked back in.
Our brains went, “Oh yeah, I know how to get through this! I learned it as a child, this is an easy one. I’ll just… (fill in the blank).” We took the belief system we developed as children into our adult world and suddenly we feel stress and pain and hurt, and all kinds of things we didn’t expect.
That’s because we stuck to the old system of beliefs we created as children. And these beliefs are deep, so it’s no wonder we rarely question what we believe. But, isn’t it time to do just that? Especially if the results you are getting in life simply aren’t what you expected them to be?
Sounds like a trip to the subconscious mind is in store today! [Read more…]
If you don’t know what’s missing in your life, then you’ve been asking yourself the wrong question.
Perhaps you should ask “What’s present in my life that’s preventing me from getting what’s missing in my life?”
It may sound like an odd way to ask the question but the way you phrase questions to yourself will dictate how you think about everything. And if you change the way you think, you can change your results.
When you don’t know what’s missing, you don’t know what to focus on to obtain what’s missing. So maybe it’s time to change the questions you ask yourself.
“What’s missing in my life?”
No… How about: “What is in my life right now that, if it were missing, would help me get what I need to feel happy?”
How your phrase your language changes how you think about a problem.
The above question sounds weird on purpose. And in order to understand it, you need to reach inside yourself a little deeper than you normally would. This will help you access your innermost resources that will help you come up with a solution.
Resisting your problems is a lot like being in denial. Both can stop you from moving forward and create suffering. When you resist facing an issue, you’re actually creating denial because you don’t want to suffer more than you already are.
There’s a way to end the suffering that often comes with problems, whether they go away or not. That’s what I want to talk about in this article.
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