Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers
Letting go of attachments was one of the most powerful processes I’ve ever done in my life, in the sense that it has created the most impactful, positive changes.
In fact, I’d go as far as saying that even if you have never listened to any episode before this and never listen to any episode after this, you will still walk away with the secret to happiness and fulfillment in life. You can’t say that about too many things. [Read more…]
Do you love what you do? If not, do you feel significant doing it? How about growth and contribution? I talk about how I enjoy what I do because it fulfills all 6 of the human needs Anthony Robbins talks about.
When you can fulfill all of your human needs in your job, hobby, or relationship, you will have an incredibly fulfilling life.
Anthony Robbins talks about the 6 human needs. From his research and exploration of human behavior, he has come up with these needs that every person has in their life. They are Love and Connection, Certainty, Uncertainty or Variety, Significance, Growth, and Contribution. Tony says that we prioritize the ones we need most too. For example, someone might need more love and connection than variety. Someone else may need to feel significant more than the need to be a contributor. [Read more…]
Many people believe that being vulnerable is a place of weakness or being fragile. Now, I will say that when you open your heart to someone, that is a vulnerable place. Because you are trusting that person with the most precious part of you. You let that person into your personal space. They are inside your castle walls, as I like to call them, and they could honor you and worship you, or they could crush you and steal all of your gold.
So being vulnerable involves trust. When you voluntarily choose to be vulnerable around someone, that is the ultimate in trust. It’s like when a cat lays on his back to show you his belly. He trusts you completely, and is confident that you won’t betray that trust.
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What kind of response do you get when you need to honor yourself with someone by saying “no” to them? I had to do this once with a business partner, and it was one of the hardest things to do.
It wasn’t just a “No, I can’t help you”, it was a, “Hey, I know we’ve been planning a project together for over a month and a half now, and I know we’re going to have a conference call about it on Sunday, but I need to bow out now. I realize I’m fifty percent of the project, and that without me, you really won’t be able to finish it, at least in a short amount of time, but I have to back out.”
I’ll tell you, it was hard to click send on that email. It was an email instead of a phone call because I really wanted to word my message so it conveyed all my thoughts without interruption.
In a live call or conversation, you could say one word and the entire conversation could go into an emotional spiral. Tempers can flare and your message may never get heard. The only thing that might be conveyed is that you are abandoning them. [Read more…]
In this article, I talk about 9 common defense mechanisms we employ in our lives. Most are used as a substitute for full expression of our thoughts and feelings (which I encourage), but you’ll find many of them useful nonetheless.
By the time you’re done reading this, you will understand what your defense mechanisms are and what you can do if you find yourself, or others, doing them. [Read more…]
