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Getting the Big Picture in Arguments – Honoring Personal Boundaries with Parents – Creating the Life You Want

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Getting the Big Picture in Arguments, Honoring Personal Boundaries with Parents, and Creating the Life You Want
Getting the Big Picture in Arguments, Honoring Personal Boundaries with Parents, and Creating the Life You Want
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Getting the Big Picture in Arguments, Honoring Personal Boundaries with Parents, and Creating the Life You Want
November 1, 2015
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Segment one: Stepping out of the details so that you can see a bigger picture is one of the best ways to end an argument. When you “chunk up” into a broader perspective instead of staying “chunked down” and embroiled in the details, you’re able to step out of all the negative emotional energy about the situation.

Segment two: A listener who just graduated college wrote and asked about honoring his personal boundaries with his parents and how to get along with a particular family member who doesn’t seem to like him.

Segment Three: I talk about what it really means to “create the life you want.” If you’ve had trouble doing that up to now, this is the segment for you.

Programming Your Future for Success

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belief subconscious accomplishment successWhen you were a child, whatever fear came up, you figured out a way to survive the moment. These survival skills were very handy in adolescence simply because they worked to keep us alive!

Sure, we probably weren’t going to die, but it felt like it! Then, years later we became adults (well, some of us did 😉 ), and soon we were put into situations that caused similar fears and once again, that old survival mentality kicked back in.

Our brains went, “Oh yeah, I know how to get through this! I learned it as a child, this is an easy one. I’ll just… (fill in the blank).” We took the belief system we developed as children into our adult world and suddenly we feel stress and pain and hurt, and all kinds of things we didn’t expect.

That’s because we stuck to the old system of beliefs we created as children. And these beliefs are deep, so it’s no wonder we rarely question what we believe. But, isn’t it time to do just that? Especially if the results you are getting in life simply aren’t what you expected them to be?

Sounds like a trip to the subconscious mind is in store today! [Read more…]

What’s Missing In My Life?

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If you don’t know what’s missing in your life, then you’ve been asking yourself the wrong question.

Perhaps you should ask “What’s present in my life that’s preventing me from getting what’s missing in my life?”

It may sound like an odd way to ask the question but the way you phrase questions to yourself will dictate how you think about everything. And if you change the way you think, you can change your results.

When you don’t know what’s missing, you don’t know what to focus on to obtain what’s missing. So maybe it’s time to change the questions you ask yourself.

“What’s missing in my life?”

No… How about: “What is in my life right now that, if it were missing, would help me get what I need to feel happy?”

How your phrase your language changes how you think about a problem.

The above question sounds weird on purpose. And in order to understand it, you need to reach inside yourself a little deeper than you normally would. This will help you access your innermost resources that will help you come up with a solution.

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Setting Goals for People who Hate Setting Goals

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img-4I hate setting goals, so I had to figure out how I could get what I want in life without following the standard goal-setting steps we’re always taught.

Just writing down a goal makes me cringe. But why?

Perhaps it’s because I’m not one of those highly organized people full of energy, That could be half of it, but it’s certainly not the whole picture.

In this article, I’m going to share with you how to get what you want without setting goals. If you hate setting goals like I do, I think this post will give you a lot of relief.

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Achieving Fulfillment Through the 6 Human Needs

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img-5Do you love what you do? If not, do you feel significant doing it? How about growth and contribution? I talk about how I enjoy what I do because it fulfills all 6 of the human needs Anthony Robbins talks about.

When you can fulfill all of your human needs in your job, hobby, or relationship, you will have an incredibly fulfilling life.

Anthony Robbins talks about the 6 human needs. From his research and exploration of human behavior, he has come up with these needs that every person has in their life. They are Love and Connection, Certainty, Uncertainty or Variety, Significance, Growth, and Contribution. Tony says that we prioritize the ones we need most too. For example, someone might need more love and connection than variety. Someone else may need to feel significant more than the need to be a contributor. [Read more…]