Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers
When someone says something hurtful or offensive to you, what happens next? For most people, the answer is automatic: The words hit, emotions flare, and suddenly you’re defending yourself, attacking back, or completely losing your composure.
A reaction to hurtful words or behaviors can happen so fast that you don’t even realize you’ve fallen into a pattern; A pattern that the other person may actually be counting on.
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Obsession is a potent force, a relentless pursuit that can consume our thoughts, behaviors, and even our lives. It’s a desperate longing that often disregards the clear signs of failure.
I know this because I’ve been there. I’ve been obsessed, and it’s not a place I would wish anyone to be.
When I was younger, I found myself in the throes of obsessive thinking more than once. My first girlfriend, my second girlfriend, my wife – all were subjects of my obsessive thoughts.
I would follow them, physically and mentally, recording their every move in my mind. I would look them up online, trying to piece together a bigger picture, hoping to find a crack in the door that I could slip through.
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In Any Relationship, You’re Either Contributing to It or Taking Away From It.
When you take away from it, you are pulling out the main ingredients of what makes a relationship healthy and enjoyable. When you are contributing to it, you are strengthening it you are giving it the life and vibrancy, it needs to stay healthy and last long.
One of the things I’ve learned over the years is that the more you show up as your true self with almost everyone in your life, life becomes a lot easier.
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What does it take to feel love and connection?
What does it take to show love and connection?
Is vulnerability the path?
Can you have a strong, loving relationship without the need to be so exposed emotionally? I do my best to answer these questions in this article.
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If you want a toxic person to change, it will probably never happen. However, there is something you can do to change the course of the relationship that may actually cause them to act differently.
Sometimes you have to make rules that guide toxic people to healthier behavior.
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