Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers
People see us differently than we see ourselves. The problem isn’t when we think we’re better than others perceive us, it’s when we don’t believe people who say good things about us.
When you find yourself throwing away compliments in place of beliefs and self-perceptions that aren’t true, you stay in a self-perpetuating cycle of negativity and may never get out until you are ready to give up that sometimes you are just plain wrong.
There’s a great lie many of us use throughout life called a quantifier.
A quantifier indicates the quantity of something. Anytime you insert quantifiers in a statement about what you can or can’t do, you may inadvertently limit your capacity to succeed.
Here are some examples:
“Everyone knows that won’t work”
“He is always mad at me”
“I can’t do that because no one would like it” [Read more…]
In this episode, I talk about that one decision you regret not having made that could have changed your entire life for the better… or would it have been worse?
In segment two, what do you do when you lose the love of your life and realize you will never be happy again? Can you recover from losing “the one”?
In segment three, what filters do you wear that show you a world that isn’t really there? Are those filters serving you?
Carl Jung said, “When an inner situation is not made conscious, it appears outside as fate.”
If you see the unfolding of events in your life as the hand life deals that you have no control over, you’re half right. Life happens and has no compassion for your situation. However, you set yourself up to fail when you choose not to look at the loose ends or unfinished emotional business you need to deal with.
[Read more…]In a recent episode of The Overwhelmed Brain podcast, I talk about when to call it quits in a relationship. It’s probably not one of those feel good episodes that everyone wants to hear. In fact, I received a message from someone who said it was a great episode and that it revealed some things in his relationship that might need to be addressed.
Sometimes life goes by and you can be in happy denial until someone points out that something might be wrong.
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