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What Emotionally Abusive Communication Looks Like

The number of manipulative people in the world is probably a lot higher than you might imagine. Of course, maybe I have that perception because the majority of my clients are in manipulative relationships, and I just don’t see too many other types.

Back around 2010, I realized I was a manipulative person for most of my life. I used masterful communication skills to get my selfish needs met by those closest to me.

In every relationship I’ve ever been in, I found ways to manipulate my partner. It took several breakups and finally a divorce for me to realize that my behavior was the reason for all of the heartaches that kept appearing in my life.

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Why Do People Keep Crossing Your Boundaries?

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When I used to travel for work, I visited quite a number of car rental booths. While renting a car on one of those trips, a man walked up behind me and got very close.

Then he stood right next to me and started asking questions to the agent (the same agent I was talking to).

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Utilize anger in a healthy way by honoring your boundaries

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Learning your boundaries – Utilizing anger in a healthy way – Accepting the limitations of others

June 5, 2016

Anger can rise up in you because of a violation of your personal boundaries, but do you even know what your boundaries are?

I like to think of boundaries as your castle walls. And within those walls lies your emotional core where you are most vulnerable yet most powerful at the same time.

Sometimes we feel anger and we aren’t even sure why. This episode will help you learn what your boundaries are so that you know at what point you can be pushed before you “lose it”.

Also, I read an email from someone who got so angry that he forgot what he said while he was in that state. You do have a choice to either utilize anger for your protection or to attack someone else.

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Healing from New Age Thinking – The fears in honoring yourself – The stolen childhood of Adult Children of Alcoholics

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Healing from New Age Thinking – The fears in honoring yourself – The stolen childhood of Adult Children of Alcoholics

In this episode, I talk about positive thinking and bridging the gap between emotions and reason.

In the next segment, when you fear honoring yourself, what can you do? It’s great advice to tell someone: “Just honor your boundaries then you can start creating the life you want!” Which of course is something I say all the time. But what if you are just too afraid to?

In the last segment, I read a letter from an adult child of an alcoholic who felt that his playfulness was stripped away because of the state of fear he lived in growing up in an alcoholic household.

Instead of Controlling Your Partner, Heal Yourself

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Most of the messages I get have to do with intimate relationships. That makes sense because many people get into these kinds of relationships.

We want that connection, bonding, and intimacy with another person. It’s in our wiring. The catch is that once we find the person to share our life with, they almost always come with a mirror that reflects what we need to heal in ourselves.

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