Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers
How many times have you broken up or got dumped in your life? And how many times was it a piece of cake?
The end of a relationship is rarely easy. It’s possible things could go smoothly, but it doesn’t usually happen. However, how much it hurts may have a lot to do with how much you nurture yourself before a breakup happens.
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In this episode, I talk about positive thinking and bridging the gap between emotions and reason.
In the next segment, when you fear honoring yourself, what can you do? It’s great advice to tell someone: “Just honor your boundaries then you can start creating the life you want!” Which of course is something I say all the time. But what if you are just too afraid to?
In the last segment, I read a letter from an adult child of an alcoholic who felt that his playfulness was stripped away because of the state of fear he lived in growing up in an alcoholic household.
In this multi-faceted episode, I’ll talk about how bullies love when you react negatively and what to do to squash the energy behind their bullying.
This is from a letter from a kid who got bullied in school and was humiliated to the point where he didn’t want to go back. Adopting a “who cares?” attitude can be very helpful in situations like this.
In the second segment, I talk about someone with an irrational boss. What do you do when your boss is completely crazy? The lizard brain kicks in, and you can react like a human, or perhaps what really needs to happen is for you to react like another lizard!
I also talk about spirituality in this episode, something I rarely talk about on this show. When the trauma is too much, and you can’t get beyond it, maybe spirituality is a factor in healing. After all, when even the worst events in life have a positive meaning of some sort, it can surely help get beyond the pain and other negative feelings.
Finally, I discuss enabling and empowerment. This episode is packed.
When it comes to visiting family, who you are can sometimes regress into the child they remember you as instead of the fully capable adult that you are now.
How do you know this is happening? When you’re afraid to be yourself around them, it’s happening.
Bullies come in all shapes and sizes and have all kinds of mannerisms that different people give different names for.
In my opinion, anytime someone wants you to feel bad or forces you to do something against your will, it is bullying.
I recently realized that I was a bully in my marriage. This led to some interesting insights I share in this episode. That, along with learning about how the typical bully ticks (and some things you can do to avoid being a victim of bullying) is what I talk about today.
(modified transcript of this episode follows)
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