How many chances does someone deserve before you’ve had enough? At what point do you accept that things will never, ever change?
[Read more…]How many strikes do you give someone before they’re out?
When it’s always your fault
If you find yourself constantly being blamed for everything going wrong, it’s time to question whether you’re being manipulated into believing what may be a deflection. In this episode, I tackle the sometimes tricky dynamics of responsibility and blame.
[Read more…]When you’re “on” too much for others but not enough for yourself
There’s a particular kind of exhaustion that comes from always having to perform. Not performing in the theatrical sense, but performing in the sense of constantly managing how you show up for others.
It’s the smile you put on for customers even when you’re having the worst day. It’s the energy you project at work when you’d rather be anywhere else. It’s the version of yourself you present to the world while something completely different is happening inside.
Do this all day and you’ll probably want to crawl inside your shell when you get home.
This applies to everyone, from celebrities and musicians, to baristas and office workers, Really, anyone who feels like they need to perform a certain version of themselves constantly. The weight of that performance can become crushing.
[Read more…]Putting an end to your own passive aggressive behavior
A listener shared with me that someone called her passive-aggressive. She had no clue that that’s what she was doing, but she asked me how to identify it in herself and how and why it comes about. I address this very important subject in this article.
The article below is an addendum to today’s episode. Also, in this episode, I bring up a very difficult situation where someone has a husband who is not only disabled, which can be challenging enough, but also abusive. The wife is stuck and doesn’t know what to do.
[Read more…]When friends and family think you’re making a bad decision
Your friends and family really want the best for you. But what are they going to say when they see you make a decision they believe is just crazy?
A woman wrote to me and told me she decided to take a break from her husband after telling her friends and family how awful he was. Now she is considering taking him back, and she has no idea how to face them and tell them the news.
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