The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers

People can change but what about when they don’t or won’t?

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People can change but what about when they don’t or wont?
People can change but what about when they don’t or wont?
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People can change but what about when they don’t or wont?
October 31, 2021

Sometimes we’re stuck with someone that doesn’t have our best interest in mind. Not only that, they may even have a not-so-pleasant plan to make us miserable.


What do you do with the toxic person that doesn’t want to, or can’t change? Is there hope when you’re in what seems like a no-win situation?

I try to answer that question in today’s episode.

Important: If you believe that you may be doing emotionally abusive behavior and would like to change that about yourself, sign up for the life-changing Healed Being program over at healedbeing.com.

If you are in an emotionally abusive relationship, I created the podcast Love and Abuse to help you navigate through the difficulties.

When your top values aren’t being met, the rest of it falls apart

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When your top values aren’t being met, the rest of it falls apart
When your top values aren’t being met, the rest of it falls apart
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When your top values aren’t being met, the rest of it falls apart
May 3, 2020

When your top-level values are being met in your relationships, the rest of it usually works out. When they aren’t, you suffer, and the relationship often fails. Every relationship, whether it’s platonic, romantic, or family, contains components that make up what we value.

Trust contains confidence and honesty, whereas distrust contains fear and stress. I talk about that and read a few emails making for a variety show today.  

When loved ones reject your reality and replace it with their own

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When loved ones reject your reality and replace it with their own
When loved ones reject your reality and replace it with their own
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When loved ones reject your reality and replace it with their own
October 25, 2020

Your mental health is too important to let those in denial ignore your suffering and invalidate your experience. The solution to someone’s ignorance could be to put the harsh truth in their face.

Or it could be to just accept that some people will always be blissfully unaware or in full denial. Acceptance that you can’t get through to everyone might be the one reality you can rely on.

Will you ever be good enough?

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Will you ever be good enough?
Will you ever be good enough?
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Will you ever be good enough?

When you are mistreated in some way and made to feel less than dirt, do you accept that you are as you are treated or that you are as you choose to be?

Don’t let other people’s perceptions of you define you. Hold yourself to a certain standard and watch everyone else change or leave. It’s not easy, of course. But it is very useful.

The inside the box thinking that keeps your emotional triggers alive

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The inside the box thinking that keeps your emotional triggers alive
The inside the box thinking that keeps your emotional triggers alive
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The inside the box thinking that keeps your emotional triggers alive
June 13, 2021

Albert Einstein said, “We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.”

When you aren’t getting the results you want today, or you find yourself easily triggered by certain events or people, you may be carrying around old baggage that perhaps requires a level of thinking just outside the box.

Many unresolved emotions sit outside the box of current thinking. If you don’t want to go outside that box, it could be why you’re stuck.