The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers

What Emotionally Abusive Communication Looks Like

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manipulation

The number of manipulative people in the world is probably a lot higher than you might imagine. Of course, maybe I have that perception because the majority of my clients are in manipulative relationships, and I just don’t see too many other types.

Back around 2010, I realized I was a manipulative person for most of my life. I used masterful communication skills to get my selfish needs met by those closest to me.

In every relationship I’ve ever been in, I found ways to manipulate my partner. It took several breakups and finally a divorce for me to realize that my behavior was the reason for all of the heartaches that kept appearing in my life.

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Do You Forgive? And a Little Bit on Shame

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Forgiveness is not about other people. It’s about you. When you can learn to forgive yourself, even when you aren’t the one to blame, you let go of the negative emotions so that you can take the learnings into your future.

Also, I talk about John Gibson, the pastor who committed suicide after hackers revealed millions of user names and detailed information about the users from the Ashley Madison infidelity and cheating site.

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Preventing and Eliminating Humiliation and Embarrassment

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Unless you thrive on the judgmental stares of others, you probably don’t like to get embarrassed or humiliated.

Sometimes the embarrassments of years gone by can pop up over and over again, especially when people you know keep bringing the humiliating situation back up. If you want to stop reliving the past, get over the shame, or even overcome what you might consider the unforgivable stuff you may have done, this article is for you. [Read more…]