The Overwhelmed Brain

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Putting an end to your own passive aggressive behavior

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Putting an end to your own passive aggressive behavior
Putting an end to your own passive aggressive behavior
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Putting an end to your own passive aggressive behavior

A listener shared with me that someone called her passive-aggressive. She had no clue that that’s what she was doing, but she asked me how to identify it in herself and how and why it comes about. I address this very important subject in this article.

The article below is an addendum to today’s episode. Also, in this episode, I bring up a very difficult situation where someone has a husband who is not only disabled, which can be challenging enough, but also abusive. The wife is stuck and doesn’t know what to do.

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People can change but what about when they don’t or won’t?

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People can change but what about when they don’t or wont?
People can change but what about when they don’t or wont?
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People can change but what about when they don’t or wont?
October 31, 2021

Sometimes we’re stuck with someone that doesn’t have our best interest in mind. Not only that, they may even have a not-so-pleasant plan to make us miserable.


What do you do with the toxic person that doesn’t want to, or can’t change? Is there hope when you’re in what seems like a no-win situation?

I try to answer that question in today’s episode.

Important: If you believe that you may be doing emotionally abusive behavior and would like to change that about yourself, sign up for the life-changing Healed Being program over at healedbeing.com.

If you are in an emotionally abusive relationship, I created the podcast Love and Abuse to help you navigate through the difficulties.

When loved ones reject your reality and replace it with their own

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When loved ones reject your reality and replace it with their own
When loved ones reject your reality and replace it with their own
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When loved ones reject your reality and replace it with their own
October 25, 2020

Your mental health is too important to let those in denial ignore your suffering and invalidate your experience. The solution to someone’s ignorance could be to put the harsh truth in their face.

Or it could be to just accept that some people will always be blissfully unaware or in full denial. Acceptance that you can’t get through to everyone might be the one reality you can rely on.

Will you ever be good enough?

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Will you ever be good enough?
Will you ever be good enough?
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Will you ever be good enough?

When you are mistreated in some way and made to feel less than dirt, do you accept that you are as you are treated or that you are as you choose to be?

Don’t let other people’s perceptions of you define you. Hold yourself to a certain standard and watch everyone else change or leave. It’s not easy, of course. But it is very useful.

Getting comfortable letting go of what no longer serves you

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Getting comfortable letting go of what no longer serves you
Getting comfortable letting go of what no longer serves you
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Getting comfortable letting go of what no longer serves you
April 5, 2020

Can you get back up after a big fall? If you’re struggling to do so, your foundation may not be as stable as you’d hoped.

The components that make up your life: Your job, your family, your home, the city you live in, your car, etc, all have some sort of meaning or value to you. When you start to let go that which no longer serves you, you start to free yourself from the toxic components.

What do you value and what gives you heartburn every time you think about it? Sometimes removing one small thing from your life can make a big change.