Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers
Today’s episode is on self-compassion, which is what you give to yourself when you stop being overly giving.
This raises the question: Can you be too much of a giver?
Also in this episode, I talk about a listener email I received from someone who asked if it’s possible to fear happiness. He seems to have the “perfect life”, but still fears being as happy as he can be. These two subjects go hand in hand, and really come down to a way of honoring yourself as you’ve never done before. [Read more…]
Segment one: Stepping out of the details so that you can see a bigger picture is one of the best ways to end an argument. When you “chunk up” into a broader perspective instead of staying “chunked down” and embroiled in the details, you’re able to step out of all the negative emotional energy about the situation.
Segment two: A listener who just graduated college wrote and asked about honoring his personal boundaries with his parents and how to get along with a particular family member who doesn’t seem to like him.
Segment Three: I talk about what it really means to “create the life you want.” If you’ve had trouble doing that up to now, this is the segment for you.
Your self-worth starts when you interpret what your parents or caretakers think about you. If you interpret that they don’t value you, you don’t value yourself.
As the years go by, your self-esteem builds from your level of self-worth. If you have low self-worth as a child, you have low self-esteem as an adult. It’s time to rebuild both so that you don’t have so much fear and insecurity in your life.
Also, I read an email from a listener who is struggling between being a child and an adult in different situations. It’s constantly stressing him out and he can’t seem to step into that adult role when needed.
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Is fate what we make or what we create? In segment one, I talk about a quote from Carl Jung on this very topic.
Today’s listener email has to do with being caught in a lie with family and what to do in the aftermath. It’s an interesting listen in segment two.
For segment three, I talk about spotting fake or forced laughter. In the final segment, I share my thoughts about a very dysfunctional family member of mine who’s trying to worm his way back into my family’s lives but is having a heck of a time getting any cooperation (hint, it’s my stepfather).
When change happens, do you grow with it or suffer and hope it goes away? Growing through change helps you move out of stagnation and stop repeating old behaviors.
In this episode of TOB, I talk about adapting to change. I also bring up the subject of death and acceptance, and how accepting that death is a part of life and letting the emotions come up, whatever they are, will help start the healing process. [Read more…]
