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Standing Up For Yourself Is The Right Thing To Do

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Standing Up For Yourself Is The Right Thing – Getting Resistance While Honoring Your Boundaries – A Listener Stops Listening and Calls Me Out

January 3, 2016

Brene Brown said, “Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.”

I remember making a business deal with a friend of mine. We went into it together knowing that we’d each have to play a part in developing, running, and sustaining the business. The business idea sounded very lucrative, and we were both excited to start going with it.

However, about a month into it, I got reservations. I almost felt sick every time we talked about it, to the point where I hoped it wouldn’t be brought up. But, this was a business arrangement that I agreed to – how could it possibly not be brought up?

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Getting the Big Picture in Arguments – Honoring Personal Boundaries with Parents – Creating the Life You Want

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Getting the Big Picture in Arguments, Honoring Personal Boundaries with Parents, and Creating the Life You Want

November 1, 2015

Segment one: Stepping out of the details so that you can see a bigger picture is one of the best ways to end an argument. When you “chunk up” into a broader perspective instead of staying “chunked down” and embroiled in the details, you’re able to step out of all the negative emotional energy about the situation.

Segment two: A listener who just graduated college wrote and asked about honoring his personal boundaries with his parents and how to get along with a particular family member who doesn’t seem to like him.

Segment Three: I talk about what it really means to “create the life you want.” If you’ve had trouble doing that up to now, this is the segment for you.

Self-Worth, Self-Esteem, and Handling Situations as the Child or the Adult

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Self-Worth, Self-Esteem and Choosing to Handle Situations as the Child or the Adult

October 25, 2015

Your self-worth starts when you interpret what your parents or caretakers think about you. If you interpret that they don’t value you, you don’t value yourself.

As the years go by, your self-esteem builds from your level of self-worth. If you have low self-worth as a child, you have low self-esteem as an adult. It’s time to rebuild both so that you don’t have so much fear and insecurity in your life.

Also, I read an email from a listener who is struggling between being a child and an adult in different situations. It’s constantly stressing him out and he can’t seem to step into that adult role when needed.

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Do You Control Fate – Recovering From The Lies You’ve Told – You Can Spot a Fake Laugh and inauthentic behavior

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Is fate what we make or what we create? In segment one, I talk about a quote from Carl Jung on this very topic.

Today’s listener email has to do with being caught in a lie with family and what to do in the aftermath. It’s an interesting listen in segment two.

For segment three, I talk about spotting fake or forced laughter. In the final segment, I share my thoughts about a very dysfunctional family member of mine who’s trying to worm his way back into my family’s lives but is having a heck of a time getting any cooperation (hint, it’s my stepfather).

The Long, Dirty Divorce: Enduring The Emotional Drain of a Never-Ending Broken Marriage

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The Long, Dirty Divorce Episode: Enduring The Emotional Drain of a Never-Ending Broken Marriage

September 27, 2015

I received an email from a woman whose husband cheated on her, then made her life a living hell during the divorce. She is depressed and has lost her desire for most things in life. Is there a solution to all of this?

How do you get from defeated and controlled to empowered and in control when you’re going through a long, dirty divorce?

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