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Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers

A Journey into Jealousy – The Dysfunctional Family Holiday Season – Their Emotions are not Your Responsibility

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A Journey into Jealousy – The Dysfunctional Family Holiday Season – Their Emotions are not Your Responsibility
A Journey into Jealousy – The Dysfunctional Family Holiday Season – Their Emotions are not Your Responsibility
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A Journey into Jealousy – The Dysfunctional Family Holiday Season – Their Emotions are not Your Responsibility
December 25, 2016

Jealousy is a multi-faceted beast that can motivate you to say or do things that you may not normally say or do. It involves many emotions and can run (and ruin) your life if you don’t address the real reasons you get jealous.

Sometimes a fantasy is created in your head and you become jealous based on what may not even exist. Other times, there is hard data to prove that what you’re jealous about is real and should be investigated further (or acted upon). Is there a good reason to get jealous?

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The Partner Who Is Everywhere But Home – Not Honoring Yourself In The Relationship – The Present Moment

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The partner who’d rather be anywhere but home – Honoring myself everywhere but home – The present moment
The partner who’d rather be anywhere but home – Honoring myself everywhere but home – The present moment
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The partner who’d rather be anywhere but home – Honoring myself everywhere but home – The present moment
December 11, 2016

What do you do when your partner wants to spend more time away from home than with you? Is that a sign that there’s something wrong in the relationship? Is there a more serious issue? Is it perhaps they don’t feel safe with you?

In the first segment, I read a letter from a man who missed his fiance’. She would go out drinking with friends and family and he would be home alone, trying not to be offended or hurt.

As she spent less time at home, he got more concerned but also gave her the space she asked for. Soon, the wedding was called off and she was moving out.

What went wrong? What could he have done differently?

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The Toxic Episode – Toxic Relationships, Validating Toxic Friends, Enabling Toxic Behavior

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The Toxic Episode – The toxic relationship – Validating toxic friends – Enabling Toxic Behavior
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The Toxic Episode – The toxic relationship – Validating toxic friends – Enabling Toxic Behavior
December 4, 2016

Toxic relationships: Friends, family, coworkers, and more – What can you do if you can’t get away from them? Do you even know how to get away from them? How can you continue a relationship when you have no choice but to be with a toxic person? This episode gets into how to deal with toxic people in your life.

Also, I read what a reviewer said about my show: Stay Away! 

What do you think, should you stay away? I’m not here to defend the show or tell you what to listen to, I’d rather you come to your own conclusion and make the decision from there. I’m honored when someone takes the time to provide reviews for the show, even bad ones, it tells me they actually care about their own personal growth and want the best for themselves. Plus, they are genuinely expressing themselves, something I promote and encourage everyone to do!

Starting the Healing Process From Child Sexual Abuse

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Begin Healing From Childhood Sexual Abuse
Begin Healing From Childhood Sexual Abuse
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Begin Healing From Childhood Sexual Abuse
November 6, 2016

Welcome Home Fiona music video by Asha Lightbearer

In this special episode of The Overwhelmed Brain, I talk with abuse survivor, songwriter, and my partner, Asha Lightbearer, about the realizations of her sexual abuse and what you can do to start your healing today.

If you aren’t a childhood sexual abuse survivor, you know one.

Survivors of childhood sexual abuse may not even be aware that they are a survivor. I had no clue that what I went through as a child, the trauma of receiving an enema at seven years old was considered a sexual violation. It was prescribed by a doctor and administered by a member of my family, so it sounded like a completely legitimate medical procedure that should have only caused a minor discomfort.

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Measuring Your Worth and Esteem – Jealous and Insecure in the Relationship

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Measuring Your Worth and Esteem – Jealous and Insecure in the Relationship
October 9, 2016

Self-esteem stems from the level of self-worth you have about yourself. How do you raise either or both so that you can walk through life confidently and assert yourself when needed?

There’s “street knowledge” then there’s book (academic) knowledge. Street Knowledge is having real-world experience. Book knowledge is when you know what to do but don’t necessarily know how to do it, or have the courage to do it.

In the Ask Paul segment, I read a letter from a jealous husband who doesn’t like it when other people look at his wife. He can’t figure out how to get past these feelings.

Insecurities abound in this segment so it’s a great segue from the last one. There’s a little bit of ego involved, a leap of faith, and a lot of trust that may need to be built up in order to allow the jealousy to go away.