Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers
Not everyone is going to like what you bring to the table. Sometimes people have high expectations of you and when you don’t deliver, it causes them to have a critical view of you. Is this your fault or the fault of the person who set up expectations that you couldn’t meet?
I read a critical review of The Overwhelmed Brain and talk about that very thing today. They’re not always “haters” but they can ruin our day. God-like teachers, the decision to stay or leave, and more… [Read more…]
Anger can rise up in you because of a violation of your personal boundaries, but do you even know what your boundaries are?
I like to think of boundaries as your castle walls. And within those walls lies your emotional core where you are most vulnerable yet most powerful at the same time.
Sometimes we feel anger and we aren’t even sure why. This episode will help you learn what your boundaries are so that you know at what point you can be pushed before you “lose it”.
Also, I read an email from someone who got so angry that he forgot what he said while he was in that state. You do have a choice to either utilize anger for your protection or to attack someone else.
[Read more…]A listener calls me out and tells me, “You couldn’t take a couple of minutes to answer me personally?”
I read her message on the air and respond to it. I always do my best to act from a place of integrity but did I mess up this time?
Also, I received an email from someone in a relationship that may not work out. She wants to know how to balance her own personal growth with the work she’s done in her relationship (and not ruin that work). And she also wants to know if she’s done everything she can do before leaving the relationship. ‘Have I turned the last “Falling out of love” stone before I completely give in to the truth?’
When do you really know when you’re out of love?
There’s also another segment on how an Adult Child of an Alcoholic can trust themselves after living a life without it. Self-trust is a process and there is a way to have it again.
In this episode, I talk about positive thinking and bridging the gap between emotions and reason.
In the next segment, when you fear honoring yourself, what can you do? It’s great advice to tell someone: “Just honor your boundaries then you can start creating the life you want!” Which of course is something I say all the time. But what if you are just too afraid to?
In the last segment, I read a letter from an adult child of an alcoholic who felt that his playfulness was stripped away because of the state of fear he lived in growing up in an alcoholic household.
When we talk to ourselves, we really are communicating with a deeper, subconscious part of us that has within it an understanding of what really motivates us in life.
Sometimes we don’t want to communicate with a part of ourselves that feels the pain, but if we don’t, that part feels neglected, lonely, hurt, and rejected, and more.
Also, is there a path out of generalized or health anxiety? Does it ever end? There are times when anxious thoughts can help you achieve your goals, then there is the anxiety that we don’t want.
Finally, I discuss abusive people that we continue to let return to our lives over and over again. Are they abusing us, or are we just abusing ourselves?
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