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The Choice to Confront – Release the Pressure of Negativity – Can Long Distance Love Work?

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The choice to confront – Release the pressure of negativity – can long distance love work
The choice to confront – Release the pressure of negativity – can long distance love work
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The choice to confront – Release the pressure of negativity – can long distance love work
July 17, 2016
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Confrontation can feel dangerous. It can cause anxiety, fear, and panic. But why?

Why would we fear expressing our true thoughts and feelings to anyone in our lives?

If your repress what you want to express, you probably have a challenge confronting people. But what happens to all that emotional energy that builds up that never gets released because you never confronted it? There are ways to dissipate that energy that I share in this episode. 

In the final segment, I read a letter from a woman who left her ex-husband behind because she was learning, growing, and evolving, but he was staying where he was. She was energetic, he was not.

The rift kept widening between them so she left. Now she’s happy, but she’s in another relationship where her loved one is 1000 miles away and neither of them can move. Can long-distance relationships work?

When People Don’t Like You – Is It Time To Get A Divorce – Some Family Isn’t Healthy To Keep

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When people don’t like you – Is it time to get a divorce – Some family isn’t healthy to keep
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When people don’t like you – Is it time to get a divorce – Some family isn’t healthy to keep
July 10, 2016
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Not everyone is going to like what you bring to the table. Sometimes people have high expectations of you and when you don’t deliver, it causes them to have a critical view of you. Is this your fault or the fault of the person who set up expectations that you couldn’t meet?

I read a critical review of The Overwhelmed Brain and talk about that very thing today. They’re not always “haters” but they can ruin our day. God-like teachers, the decision to stay or leave, and more… [Read more…]

Utilize anger in a healthy way by honoring your boundaries

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Learning your boundaries – Utilizing anger in a healthy way – Accepting the limitations of others
Learning your boundaries – Utilizing anger in a healthy way – Accepting the limitations of others
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Learning your boundaries – Utilizing anger in a healthy way – Accepting the limitations of others
June 5, 2016
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Anger can rise up in you because of a violation of your personal boundaries, but do you even know what your boundaries are?

I like to think of boundaries as your castle walls. And within those walls lies your emotional core where you are most vulnerable yet most powerful at the same time.

Sometimes we feel anger and we aren’t even sure why. This episode will help you learn what your boundaries are so that you know at what point you can be pushed before you “lose it”.

Also, I read an email from someone who got so angry that he forgot what he said while he was in that state. You do have a choice to either utilize anger for your protection or to attack someone else.

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Acting from Integrity – Balancing Personal Growth with Relationship Growth – Knowing When You Are Out of Love – Making the Right Choices

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Acting from Integrity – Balancing personal growth with relationship growth – Knowing when you are out of love – Making the right choices
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Acting from Integrity – Balancing personal growth with relationship growth – Knowing when you are out of love – Making the right choices
May 29, 2016
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A listener calls me out and tells me, “You couldn’t take a couple of minutes to answer me personally?”

I read her message on the air and respond to it. I always do my best to act from a place of integrity but did I mess up this time? 

Also, I received an email from someone in a relationship that may not work out. She wants to know how to balance her own personal growth with the work she’s done in her relationship (and not ruin that work). And she also wants to know if she’s done everything she can do before leaving the relationship. ‘Have I turned the last “Falling out of love” stone before I completely give in to the truth?’

When do you really know when you’re out of love?

There’s also another segment on how an Adult Child of an Alcoholic can trust themselves after living a life without it. Self-trust is a process and there is a way to have it again.

Healing from New Age Thinking – The fears in honoring yourself – The stolen childhood of Adult Children of Alcoholics

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In this episode, I talk about positive thinking and bridging the gap between emotions and reason.

In the next segment, when you fear honoring yourself, what can you do? It’s great advice to tell someone: “Just honor your boundaries then you can start creating the life you want!” Which of course is something I say all the time. But what if you are just too afraid to?

In the last segment, I read a letter from an adult child of an alcoholic who felt that his playfulness was stripped away because of the state of fear he lived in growing up in an alcoholic household.