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Making difficult and sometimes painful decisions that almost always improve your life

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Making difficult and sometimes painful decisions that almost always improve your life
Making difficult and sometimes painful decisions that almost always improve your life
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Making difficult and sometimes painful decisions that almost always improve your life
September 1, 2019
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The key to long-lasting happiness and fulfillment is about ten percent luck and ninety percent of what I talk about in today’s episode.

If you struggle in your relationships, your job, or life in general, you may be sabotaging your own path to success. Start making decisions based on what’s most important to you instead of from a fear of the consequences and you’ll end up with a vastly different reality.

Filed Under: Ask Paul, Decisions, Desires, Healthy Thinking, Podcast Episode, Values Tagged With: How do I make better decisions?, I sabotage my own happiness, Why doesn't anything work out for me?

Living life on your terms

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Living life on your terms
Living life on your terms
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Living life on your terms
November 25, 2018
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How many decisions do you make in your life that are actually based on what you want instead of how someone else will respond?

Sometimes it takes a swift kick in the emotional behind to get moving on your decisions so that you can get out of the emotional rut of trying to please others while losing yourself.

Filed Under: Ask Paul, Codependency, Communication, Decisions, Desires, Motivation, People Pleaser, Personal Boundaries, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth Tagged With: better decision making, living life on your terms

Can You Make Peace with Your Cravings?

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I was chatting with a client recently and told her that over the weekend, I drank a soda. This may not be a shock to you, but it was for me because I haven’t had a soda in about twenty years.

I was at a horse farm with my girlfriend enjoying some time away from home, and this craving came over me. I really, really wanted a soda.

Every time I’ve tried to drink soda in the past (after I quit soft drinks), I got an instant headache. This was a blessing when I was getting off my soft drink addiction because it made the cravings a lot easier to reject.

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Filed Under: Addiction, anxiety, Behavior, Codependency, Control, Decisions, Desires, Emotional Eating, Healthy Thinking, Obsession, Physical Health, Regret, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Toxic Thinking Tagged With: beating myself up for giving in, I am addicted to sugar, Making peace with your cravings, what's missing in my life?

How To Make Better Decisions To Get The Outcomes You Want

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If your life is filled with stress and an overall sense of unhappiness, you may be unknowingly making decisions that are hurting you in ways that you don’t even realize.

Picture a funnel for a moment. A funnel can be a great visualization of what happens when you make a decision. The stem (the small opening) represents the choice you have before you. The mouth (the wide part) represents the outcomes that manifest because of those choices.

I like that visualization because a choice stems from a thought that leads to an action that could lead to massive change in your life. Your choice “funnels” out into the world, affecting you and everything in it sometimes.

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Filed Under: Behavior, Control, Decisions, Desires, Fears, Motivation, Negative Emotions, Passion, Personal Boundaries, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Thinking, Values Tagged With: How to make better decisions, I can't trust my decisions, i make terrible decisions

Rekindling with toxic family – The long-term results of honoring yourself – Even the victim plays a role – Contact or no contact your ex

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Rekindling with toxic family – The long-term results of honoring yourself – Even the victim plays a role – Contact or no contact your ex
Rekindling with toxic family – The long-term results of honoring yourself – Even the victim plays a role – Contact or no contact your ex
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Rekindling with toxic family – The long-term results of honoring yourself – Even the victim plays a role – Contact or no contact your ex
June 18, 2017
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How do you go about rekindling with toxic and/or dysfunctional family members? Is it worth “going home” and starting up those old, dysfunctional, family get-togethers again?

Is it possible to avoid the toxicity of a dysfunctional family past? There is a way to return to a toxic family environment but it’s going to take some courage to be the person you want to be with the people that have always known you the way you were. I talk about that and more in segment one.

In segment two, I read a message from someone who shares what it’s like honoring yourself. Joshua says that he’s been taking steps to stand up for himself and express his truths to people that he never has before. He is showing up as that authentic person he’s always wanted to be and things are happening for him in a way that never has.

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Filed Under: abuse, childhood, Children, Control, Decisions, Depression, Desires, Divorce, Dysfunction, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, enabling, Family, Human Potential, Loneliness, Manipulation, Marriage, Narcissism, Personal Boundaries, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Toxic People, Victim Mentality Tagged With: Contact or no contact your ex, Emotional Abuse, Even the victim plays a role, Rekindling with toxic family, The long-term results of honoring yourself, verbal abuse

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