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The Ego-Crushing Path to Enlightenment

I’d like to share an embarrassing story with you. In my early thirties, I thought I was one of the best harmonica players in the world. I really did! After all, I was imitating some of the best players so obviously, I was just as talented.

Then I decided that I wanted to be the best, so I bought some CDs and started imitating more players. However, after listening to other artists perform their music, I was suddenly struck with the realization that not only was I not in the top tier of best players in the world, but I wasn’t even on the bottom rung of a very tall ladder of talent and skill.

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More Motivation and Less Anxiety by Building a Healthy Ego

Building Self-Esteem and Self-Worth, While Avoiding the Ego Trap

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Self-worth is how you perceive yourself through other people’s eyes. Self-esteem is how confident and worthy you feel about yourself.

Your self-esteem can be crushed if you are around people that do not recognize your worth. And after years of low self-worth, you may feel like a loser who doesn’t deserve good things in life.

On top of that, if you work hard at developing your worth and esteem, your ego can come in and try to spoil things even more.

There are ways to build and nurture all three of these so that you can tackle life a lot easier when the challenges present themselves.

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When you’re “on” too much for others but not enough for yourself

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When you’re “on” too much for others but not enough for yourself

There’s a particular kind of exhaustion that comes from always having to perform. Not performing in the theatrical sense, but performing in the sense of constantly managing how you show up for others.

It’s the smile you put on for customers even when you’re having the worst day. It’s the energy you project at work when you’d rather be anywhere else. It’s the version of yourself you present to the world while something completely different is happening inside.

Do this all day and you’ll probably want to crawl inside your shell when you get home.

This applies to everyone, from celebrities and musicians, to baristas and office workers, Really, anyone who feels like they need to perform a certain version of themselves constantly. The weight of that performance can become crushing.

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Learning to control your own reactions and overreactions

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Learning to control your own reactions and overreactions

January 3, 2021

Without coping mechanisms, every small thing is like the end of the world.

Some people might say you overreact and sometimes you agree with them but can’t figure out how to stop doing it.

If you find yourself reacting as if you were in fight or flight, it’s time to get a grip on your emotional triggers and change the patterns that create those reactions in the first place.

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