Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers
What do you do when someone you care about tells you a secret that affects other people you care about? Do you follow your heart or your values? Does your moral compass activate and make you express the secret to those who should know?
A dilemma like this seems like it has no real good answer. But I’ll share what I went through and how I handled it.
Albert Einstein said, “We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.”
When you aren’t getting the results you want today, or you find yourself easily triggered by certain events or people, you may be carrying around old baggage that perhaps requires a level of thinking just outside the box.
Many unresolved emotions sit outside the box of current thinking. If you don’t want to go outside that box, it could be why you’re stuck.
Sometimes you have to let things go and take a new road in order to find a sense of peace and comfort inside yourself. The new road may come with a high price that has an even higher reward.
Are you going to pay the high price for the reward, or take a longer path that involves a bit more mental labor? They are both challenging but they both lead to an outcome that is worth the journey.
When you’re needy and fearful of someone leaving you, or something ending, you tend to miss all the best moments of life.
Fear of abandonment can dominate your thoughts causing you to miss out on happiness and fulfillment. When you grow beyond that fear, you might actually starting enjoying life again.
You know that feeling you get when someone does something that surprises you in a bad way but they don’t tell you why they did it?
When you aren’t given the reason for their behavior, you may walk around with that unfinished business feeling. It’s the feeling you get when you really want to move on from an event in your life but just can’t stop obsessing on why they did what they did.
It’s a tough place to be, but it needs to be resolved if you’re going to move on and enjoy life again.
