I recently realized that I was a bully in my marriage. This led to some interesting insights I share in this episode. That, along with learning about how the typical bully ticks (and some things you can do to avoid being a victim of bullying) is what I talk about today.
Judgment can be one of the most damaging weapons in a relationship, as it tells your partner that it’s not okay to be themselves. This builds resentment in them and will eventually crumble even the most intimate relationships.
If it doesn’t crumble then it suffers. This article explains how your triggers form your judgments and how your judgments can ruin your life if you don’t learn what to do with them. [Read more…]
There are true victims in the world, then there are chronic complainers who keep themselves in a victimized state closing the door to progress, healing and growth.
It could have started in childhood or sprung up when they were older, but those who have a victim mentality know one thing for sure: Nothing ever works out for them.
This belief system keeps them in a rut and prevents them from seeing options that could be right in front of them.
Are you or someone you know a self-perpetuating victim? [Read more…]
Infidelity can be one of the most painful experiences you can have next to losing a child. The pain that is created from the betrayal is nearly unbearable and much healing is needed afterward, whether you stay in the relationship or not.
Today I talk about the one sign you need to pay attention to most when you suspect cheating in your relationship. I also walk you through healing in the aftermath.
Emotional triggers are the surprises that we get when someone we love, or a situation, causes us to have a reaction that we haven’t processed yet. For example if you were yelled at as a child and you attached being yelled at to fear, you might get triggered as an adult when you are near someone yelling.
Triggers are typically childhood beliefs that aren’t necessarily true anymore and need to be addressed to save your relationships. Once you release your old triggers you can view the world from an entirely different place instead of through the eyes of a fearful child. [Read more…]