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The Silent Treatment – The Drawbacks of Non-Confrontational Behavior – Permission to Hate

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The Silent Treatment – The Drawbacks of Non-Confrontational Behavior – Permission to Hate

October 2, 2016

The silent treatment is like an acid that disintegrates trust and love because of the withdrawal of emotions (emotional withdrawal). It’s hard to trust someone who gives you the silent treatment because when they withdraw, you might feel betrayed and abandoned.

I also talk about the drawbacks of non-confrontational behavior and how choosing not to confront disintegrates love and bonding. When you choose to be non-confrontational, it’s like telling the other person “I don’t want to tell you the whole truth”.

And what about hate? Are you allowed to feel hate? Should you? I think it’s important to acknowledge and accept every part of you and every thought instead of resisting your thoughts. Otherwise, you go around holding on to a lot of negativity which you eventually unleash on those you love.

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Indecision and Stagnation – Realizations of a New, Bad Marriage – Music and Emotions

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Indecision and Stagnation – Realizations of a New, Bad Marriage – Music and Emotions

September 25, 2016

Permanent decisions are not always permanent, we just think they are. Even marriage nowadays isn’t permanent, as much as we want it to be.

And even when everything is going great, “stuff” happens and makes things not so great anymore, which forces us to change or fall.

There’s a fun, yet morbid, quote I read about flat squirrels and indecision (if you think hard enough, you’ll understand that right away), and it makes for a great topic to talk about.

In segment 2, I read an email from someone who sees every red flag in a new marriage yet doesn’t walk away. Her values and boundaries are being violated and she finds nothing to love about a man she’s already married to on paper. Then she asks if there is any hope. Hmm…

In segment 3, I talk about how music is a great mood changer but shouldn’t necessarily replace deeper reflection and processing of buried emotions.

Losing Your Identity in the Relationship – The Brilliant, Worthy You – Exes as Friends – The Right Partner

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Losing Your Identity in the Relationship – The Brilliant, Worthy You – Exes as Friends – The Right Partner

September 18, 2016

Nurturing yourself while you’re in a relationship decreases the impact breaking up has if and when it happens. The more you keep the connection with yourself and don’t lose a part of you in the relationship, the healthier you stay. You lose your identity in a relationship when you don’t nurture yourself.

When family doesn’t honor you and see your worth, sometimes you just have to distance yourself from them so that you reconnect with a brilliant, worthy you. Not everyone is capable of seeing what you are, so it’s important to continue nurturing and supporting yourself as if you were your own child or best friend.

When your partner has a friend who is also an ex, how do you feel about that? Do they talk all the time? Do they have to communicate because of shared custody of children? Do they communicate more than you’d like? It’s important to understand where your line is and when your partner is crossing it. Otherwise, their ex becomes a part of your relationship, which can be damaging if you’re not all good friends, to begin with.

The Plight of the People-Pleaser

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People-pleasers appear to be very thoughtful. They will do everything they can to make sure those they love (and even those they don’t) are happy.

At first, this sounds like the ideal person to have in your life! After all, if they are set out to make you happy, who could ask for anything more?

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Weaning Off Toxic People

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What if the person you’re with is toxic, but you have a belief that they are the best you can get?

What if you’re stuck in a relationship you don’t like, but stick around anyway because you think you’ll never find anything better, so what’s the point?

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