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How Do Your Personal Values Affect Your Work?

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What you value in life overflows into your business, relationships and everything else. I’ve talked about values before, but I dive in a little deeper as a guest on Amber Hurdle’s excellent show “Bombshell Business Podcast” where I talk about getting in alignment with your personal values to create business success.

Join Amber and I as I walk her through my process of getting focused about what path to take with her business.

Once you know your values, decisions are a lot easier to make. If you’d like to go through my process of getting into alignment with your values, download the Stop Self-Sabotage workbook today!

Starting the Healing Process From Child Sexual Abuse

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Begin Healing From Childhood Sexual Abuse
Begin Healing From Childhood Sexual Abuse
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Begin Healing From Childhood Sexual Abuse
November 6, 2016

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In this special episode of The Overwhelmed Brain, I talk with abuse survivor, songwriter, and my partner, Asha Lightbearer, about the realizations of her sexual abuse and what you can do to start your healing today.

If you aren’t a childhood sexual abuse survivor, you know one.

Survivors of childhood sexual abuse may not even be aware that they are a survivor. I had no clue that what I went through as a child, the trauma of receiving an enema at seven years old was considered a sexual violation. It was prescribed by a doctor and administered by a member of my family, so it sounded like a completely legitimate medical procedure that should have only caused a minor discomfort.

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The Meaning of Communication – Guilt by Manipulation – Obsessing Over the Ex

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The Meaning of Communication – Guilt by Manipulation – Obsessing Over the Ex
October 30, 2016

What you say isn’t always what they hear. What they understand isn’t always what you conveyed. Who is responsible for the communication, you? Them? Both? Neither? It’s time to explore this topic.

In Ask Paul part 1, I read a message from someone who got out of a manipulative, abusive relationship with a malignant narcissist. It was a crazy time for her, and she is healing, but she shares a lesson for us all.

In Ask Paul part 2, I read a letter from someone still obsessing over his ex. They were together a short time but he’s still grieving over the death of their relationship. What can you do when you’re in that state?

Tune into the Love and Abuse podcast to help you learn how to navigate difficult relationships

The Pattern of Anxiety – Saving Anger Only For Those Closest to You

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The Pattern of Anxiety – Saving Anger Only For Those Closest to You
October 23, 2016

With General Anxiety Disorder (GAD), is there a chance of getting free of the consistent feelings of anxiety and panic? Is there a remote chance of feeling better or even making it go away completely? Maybe…

Also, I get a letter from a girl whose boyfriend gets jealous so she gets angry, which causes him to insult her, which causes her to react, and so on. I talk about a possible resolution. I’ll cover jealousy and anger and the fact that we often direct that anger at the wrong people.

Stop anxiety when it starts with The S.A.F.E. Empowerment System

Laughing at Criticism – There Are No Terrible Children – Fixing Your Own Toxic Behavior

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Laughing at Criticism – There Are No Terrible Children – Fixing Your Own Toxic Behavior
October 16, 2016

Can you laugh at criticism? Do you believe in yourself enough so that when someone calls you anything less than you really are, you can shrug it off without those sometimes hard-to-avoid feelings?

When you get to a place inside where you are proud of yourself no matter what, then you’ll find yourself genuinely laughing instead of reacting when someone is being critical of you.

Children can seem to do awful things, but they are a result of the programming adults have fed into them since birth. Is it really their fault they are acting in the way they were nurtured and influenced?

Finally, is it possible to change manipulative, toxic behavior, and repair the damage to your relationships because of it? Both can be achieved but they require serious introspection. Heal yourself and both situations can improve and evolve.