The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers

The Ego-Crushing Path to Enlightenment

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I’d like to share an embarrassing story with you. In my early thirties, I thought I was one of the best harmonica players in the world. I really did! After all, I was imitating some of the best players so obviously, I was just as talented.

Then I decided that I wanted to be the best, so I bought some CDs and started imitating more players. However, after listening to other artists perform their music, I was suddenly struck with the realization that not only was I not in the top tier of best players in the world, but I wasn’t even on the bottom rung of a very tall ladder of talent and skill.

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The Emotional Healing Journey – To Express or Not To Express – Focus on Yourself

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The Emotional Healing Journey – To Express or Not To Express – Focus on Yourself
The Emotional Healing Journey – To Express or Not To Express – Focus on Yourself
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The Emotional Healing Journey – To Express or Not To Express – Focus on Yourself
December 18, 2016
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The emotional healing journey consists of many ups and downs. A listener asks me how I managed to get through my journey and what I can share with others on what to expect.

Whether you’re starting your healing journey from scratch or still on a hot path of learning, healing, and growing, there’s always more to learn.

I talk about what it takes to honor your boundaries in a healthy way (instead of waiting until you blow up) and recognize patterns in yourself that may point back to emotional wounds from the past.

What are your results over and over again? Are you succeeding in life or failing miserably?

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Strength in Vulnerability – What if Divorce is a Mistake? – Never Happy Without Someone Else in my Life

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Strength in vulnerability – What if divorce is a mistake? – Never happy without someone else in my life
Strength in vulnerability – What if divorce is a mistake? – Never happy without someone else in my life
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Strength in vulnerability – What if divorce is a mistake? – Never happy without someone else in my life
July 31, 2016
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Vulnerability is the final step toward your strength. Your emotional core contains all of your emotions, your shame, fear, guilt, embarrassment, and sadness, but also your joy, happiness, peace, and a lot of other good feelings too.

In childhood, we learn to close off that core and only let in and out so much because we’ve been emotionally wounded. Letting those defensive walls come down lets both the bad and the good out, but only the good sticks around when you do it right.

Also, I read a letter from a woman who doesn’t want anything to change except maybe her marriage, but that means a lot of other things have to change as well. So she’s not sure if getting a divorce is the right decision.

Finally, I read a second email from a 24-year-old who has chosen a career path that he is unhappy with. On top of that, his girlfriend left him and he is not happy unless someone else is in his life. Lots to talk about today. Thanks for listening!

Empowerment Through Vulnerability

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vulnerabilityEmotions rise up from our core, where we are both most vulnerable and powerful. When we can live from this core place inside of us we can be authentic. When that happens we are empowered to be our true selves.

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Vulnerability Can Be a Place of Strength

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Many people believe that being vulnerable is a place of weakness or being fragile. Now, I will say that when you open your heart to someone, that is a vulnerable place. Because you are trusting that person with the most precious part of you. You let that person into your personal space. They are inside your castle walls, as I like to call them, and they could honor you and worship you, or they could crush you and steal all of your gold.

So being vulnerable involves trust. When you voluntarily choose to be vulnerable around someone, that is the ultimate in trust. It’s like when a cat lays on his back to show you his belly. He trusts you completely, and is confident that you won’t betray that trust.

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