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The intimacy that happens behind their back

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The intimacy that happens behind their back

July 31, 2020

Cheating and infidelity can be a sensitive topic. You could be a victim to it, you could be the cheater, or you could be the one seeing someone who is cheating on their partner to be with you.

No matter what, there is almost always heartache on the other side. It doesn’t mean there isn’t healing, but there is almost always pain.

In this episode, I receive a message from a woman who is seeing someone cheating on his wife to be with her, and I read another message from someone who was once the cheater.

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Email grab bag: Purging awkwardness, the perfect partner, lonely and depressed

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Email grab bag: Purging awkwardness, the perfect partner, lonely and depressed

July 5, 2020

I read three emails that dive into awkward feelings when interacting with others, deciding whether to settle for someone who doesn’t know what they want in a relationship, and someone who wrote to me saying that they are lonely and depressed.

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I can’t get you out of my head but I need to so I can start living again

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I can't get you out of my head but I need to so I can start living again

June 24, 2020

Obsessing about your ex wastes all your time and keeps you in a rut that you can’t get out of until you take hard steps to disconnect from them completely.

That involves a lot of will power and determination. But when you get your life back, it will have been time and energy well spent.

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The Dramatic Victim Doesn’t Want Change

Have you ever met someone who complained about their circumstances but wasn’t willing to do anything to change them?

In fact, if you were to suggest a possible solution to them, they would come up with an excuse or valid sounding reason on why your suggestion wouldn’t work. And the more you tried to help, the more flaws they’d find in your logic.

The hard truth is that some people don’t want to change nor do they want others around them to help them change. People like this refuse to acknowledge the role they play in their misery and often blame others for their suffering.

If you are intertwined with someone like this, you might have to be careful that you are not helping to enable this behavior. This type of person may find comfort in your attention to their misery. And as long as they are getting their needs met, they may not mind if you become miserable along with them as you try to help them.

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10 Steps to Keep Your Relationship from Slipping into Dysfunction

If your relationship has gone through its ups and downs but is now on a good path to prosper, you’ll probably want to keep it that way.

Here are ten steps you can take to make sure your relationship stays healthy and continues to blossom. For more of an in-depth look at each step, listen to the episode attached to this post.

(after you read this article, be sure to tune into the Love and Abuse podcast for advice on how to avoid toxic behavior in relationships)

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