The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers

Happiness dissolves when you don’t let other people know what your boundaries are

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What does it take to honor your boundaries and live from that authentic place inside you? Do you earn the respect you deserve?

You might be surprised to find out that respect from others happens naturally when you honor yourself and your personal boundaries. Doing this shows the world who you really are, and what behavior is okay, and what is not.

You are worthy and deserve respect. Honoring yourself shows the world the type of behavior you will and won’t accept, improving your relationships and keeping you not only happier, but sane!

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Making difficult or impossible decisions

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Making impossible decisions
Making impossible decisions
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Making impossible decisions
January 26, 2020

If you’re always looking in the rearview mirror, it’s quite possible you’re not creating the life you want.

Sometimes you get to the tipping point where you just can’t stand it anymore and you take action. Segment one of this episode covers this and more.

In segment two, there’s a seriously difficult decision facing someone who wrote to me who is married but wants to explore being transgender, but his wife is upset and the marriage is in limbo. The impossible decision looms over him.

Stop believing what hurtful people say to you: Transforming negative self-talk to empowerment

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Stop believing what hurtful people say to you: Transforming negative self-talk to empowerment
Stop believing what hurtful people say to you: Transforming negative self-talk to empowerment
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Stop believing what hurtful people say to you: Transforming negative self-talk to empowerment
September 30, 2018

Hurtful people do a really good job of causing us to feel bad about ourselves.

Not only that, we end up repeating what they said or did to us in our mind over and over again. The emotional trauma can last for months or years.

In this episode I help transform the hurtful messages from others into empowering declarations that help us move on see them for who they really are.

Is your negative self-perception causing you to believe in lies?

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Is Your Negative Self-Perception Making You Believe in Lies?
Is Your Negative Self-Perception Making You Believe in Lies?
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Is Your Negative Self-Perception Making You Believe in Lies?
July 8, 2018

People see us differently than we see ourselves. The problem isn’t when we think we’re better than others perceive us, it’s when we don’t believe people who say good things about us.

When you find yourself throwing away compliments in place of beliefs and self-perceptions that aren’t true, you stay in a self-perpetuating cycle of negativity and may never get out until you are ready to give up that sometimes you are just plain wrong.

Reconnecting With Family As The New You

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One of the hardest steps to take after any level of personal growth and development is introducing the new you to those who know you best:

Family

I stayed out of touch with my father for 10 years(!) until I heard that he was dying. 10 years previous to that, I made the choice to stay away from him because our conversations never really seemed to be about how much he missed me and wanted to spend time with me, they’d almost always end with him asking me for money.

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