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The Partner Who Is Everywhere But Home – Not Honoring Yourself In The Relationship – The Present Moment

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The partner who’d rather be anywhere but home – Honoring myself everywhere but home – The present moment
The partner who’d rather be anywhere but home – Honoring myself everywhere but home – The present moment
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The partner who’d rather be anywhere but home – Honoring myself everywhere but home – The present moment
December 11, 2016

What do you do when your partner wants to spend more time away from home than with you? Is that a sign that there’s something wrong in the relationship? Is there a more serious issue? Is it perhaps they don’t feel safe with you?

In the first segment, I read a letter from a man who missed his fiance’. She would go out drinking with friends and family and he would be home alone, trying not to be offended or hurt.

As she spent less time at home, he got more concerned but also gave her the space she asked for. Soon, the wedding was called off and she was moving out.

What went wrong? What could he have done differently?

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The Spiritual Lessons Connecting the Past to Present – Letting Family Hit Rock Bottom – Alone on the Holidays

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The Spiritual Lessons Connecting the Past to Present – Letting Family Hit Rock Bottom – Alone on the Holidays
The Spiritual Lessons Connecting the Past to Present – Letting Family Hit Rock Bottom – Alone on the Holidays
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The Spiritual Lessons Connecting the Past to Present – Letting Family Hit Rock Bottom – Alone on the Holidays
November 27, 2016

There’s a spiritual or philosophical correlation between an event that happened to you in your past and what is happening to you today.

You may not recognize the significance of your behavior today, but when you are able to make the connection between present behavior and prior emotional events, it’s like plugging a lamp into a socket and watching light fill the room. 

The circuit between the past and the present becomes linked and negative emotions can diminish or disappear. It sounds a bit “out there” but there is a process to go through if you want to try it out yourself.

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The Secrets That We Keep – Feeling Overexposed And Hollow Inside – Lonely When You Are Not Alone

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The secrets that we keep – Feeling overexposed and hollow inside – Lonely when you are not alone
The secrets that we keep – Feeling overexposed and hollow inside – Lonely when you are not alone
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The secrets that we keep – Feeling overexposed and hollow inside – Lonely when you are not alone
July 10, 2016

Where do you go when you have a secret that you believe someone else needs to know? Are you loyal to the secret teller? Do you tell the person who should know the secret?

It’s a question to ponder, where do your loyalties lie, and what should you do with a secret you are committed to keeping?

Also, I received a letter from someone who shares and expresses to as many people as she can but still doesn’t feel like she’s released or vented her emotions, so she ends up feeling empty and still having pain.

Unresolved emotions fester inside of us until we address them in some way, but sometimes we don’t know that we’re still not deep enough inside the emotional well, and all we’re doing is pulling up empty buckets.

Speaking of emptiness, feeling lonely even when around friends and family is a big challenge too. Lots to talk about today.

You Are Not Alone in Your Challenges But May Feel Alone in Your Relationship

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You Are Not Alone in Your Challenges But May Feel Alone in Your Relationship
You Are Not Alone in Your Challenges But May Feel Alone in Your Relationship
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You Are Not Alone in Your Challenges But May Feel Alone in Your Relationship
April 17, 2016

Have you ever felt alone in your struggles? Just when you thought you were the only person experiencing what you’re going through, it’s hard to imagine anyone else dealing with the same thing. Yet, there are many. And I receive a lot of messages from people that reinforce that. How does that help you? There might be something bigger at play here.

Also, I talk about a message I received from someone who feels very alone in her relationship. Her partner just doesn’t seem to want to include her in any future plans he has for himself, and only himself. He says he loves her and wants to be with her, but his actions and behavior prove otherwise. Much to talk about today.

The Abused Mind in Relationships – A Listener Gets Cheated On And Kicked Out – Wanting Others To Do What You Believe is Right

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The Abused Mind in Relationships – A Listener Gets Cheated On And Kicked Out – Wanting Others To Do What You Believe is Right
The Abused Mind in Relationships – A Listener Gets Cheated On And Kicked Out – Wanting Others To Do What You Believe is Right
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The Abused Mind in Relationships – A Listener Gets Cheated On And Kicked Out – Wanting Others To Do What You Believe is Right
March 6, 2016

Getting into an abusive relationship is a quick path to a horrible future. Getting into a great relationship, however, can seem like the best thing that ever happened… unless they cheat, then it feels like an abusive relationship.

If you decide to stay in a relationship where you know infidelity is happening, are you being abused, or are you abusing yourself? 

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