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The General Lies You Tell Yourself and Others to Keep You From Success

Losing love and the general lies we tell ourselves
Losing love and the general lies we tell ourselves
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Losing love and the general lies we tell ourselves
November 19, 2017

There’s a great lie many of us use throughout life called a quantifier.

A quantifier indicates the quantity of something. Anytime you insert quantifiers in a statement about what you can or can’t do, you may inadvertently limit your capacity to succeed.

Here are some examples:

“Everyone knows that won’t work” 
“He is always mad at me” 
“I can’t do that because no one would like it” [Read more…]

Filed Under: Behavior, Beliefs, Deception, Lying, Thinking Tagged With: communication, language, The General Lies You Tell Yourself and Others to Keep You From Success

Exploring Infidelity: Can The Relationship Survive The Affair?

Exploring infidelity – Can the relationship survive the affair
Exploring infidelity – Can the relationship survive the affair
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Exploring infidelity – Can the relationship survive the affair
March 25, 2018

>Cheating might be the end of most relationships, but many couples have survived and thrived after an affair. There are many components to infidelity so it’s important to understand it from all sides.

In this episode, I explore the basics of cheating and what will allow your relationship to survive and heal after the affair. [Read more…]

Filed Under: Abandonment, Ask Paul, Deception, Divorce, Family, Forgiveness, Guilt, Infidelity, Intimacy, Jealousy, Lying, Marriage, Podcast Episode, Rejection, Relationships, Sex, Values Tagged With: heal from cheating, Surviving the affair

Breaking up for newbies – Enabling your own terrible relationship – Dating the emotional abuser

Breaking up for newbies – Enabling your own terrible relationship – Dating the emotional abuser
Breaking up for newbies – Enabling your own terrible relationship – Dating the emotional abuser
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Breaking up for newbies – Enabling your own terrible relationship – Dating the emotional abuser
February 4, 2018

Segment 1: Without a history of breakups, your first major one can seem devastating and life-ending.

In this segment, I help the newbie get through all the symptoms of the first major heartbreak.

Segment 2: When you think your relationship is horrible and you find yourself taking up all the slack for your deadbeat other half, are you creating your own misery?

[Read more…]

Filed Under: abuse, Codependency, Divorce, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, enabling, Human Potential, Loneliness, Loss, Lying, Manipulation, Marriage, Narcissism, Relationships Tagged With: Breaking up for newbies, Dating the emotional abuser, Enabling your own terrible relationship

Holding on to a lie to keep the relationship going

Holding on to a lie to keep the relationship going
Holding on to a lie to keep the relationship going
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Holding on to a lie to keep the relationship going
December 6, 2017

When you find out a lie that your partner has been holding on to for months or years, where does that leave the relationship?

How do you move on? What if it’s a minor lie and your relationship has been going great?

[Read more…]

Filed Under: Deception, Divorce, Infidelity, Lying, Manipulation, Marriage, Relationships, Values Tagged With: Holding on to a lie to keep the relationship going

Escaping the Real World – Kids and the Narcissistic Parent – The Isolation of the Child Sexual Abuse Survivor

Escaping the Real World – Kids and the Narcissistic Parent – The Isolation of the Child Sexual Abuse Survivor
Escaping the Real World – Kids and the Narcissistic Parent – The Isolation of the Child Sexual Abuse Survivor
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Escaping the Real World – Kids and the Narcissistic Parent – The Isolation of the Child Sexual Abuse Survivor
November 26, 2017

Do you fantasize, daydream, play video games or watch TV in hopes that you won’t have to deal with reality?

It’s not all bad but anything in moderation, right? In the first segment of this episode, I talk about the benefits of skipping reality for a little bit as long as you connect with yourself in other ways.

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Filed Under: Abandonment, abuse, Ask Paul, childhood, Children, Codependency, Control, Divorce, Dysfunction, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, Family, Human Potential, Lying, Manipulation, Narcissism, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Sex, Shame, Suicide Tagged With: childhood sexual abuse, lost in thought, narcissistic abuse, narcissistic ex

Losing love and the general lies we tell ourselves

Losing love and the general lies we tell ourselves
Losing love and the general lies we tell ourselves
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Losing love and the general lies we tell ourselves
November 19, 2017

Black or white thinking can lead you to be untrusting of people and the world in general.

If you’ve loved and lost and cannot figure out how to love as deeply as you once did, it could be a general distrust you carry around – seeing people as either safe or not safe. If you cannot be vulnerable, a difficult thing to achieve after pain or betrayal, you may not be able to rebuild the emptiness in your heart.

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Filed Under: Betrayal, Divorce, Lying, Marriage, Relationships Tagged With: Losing love and the general lies we tell ourselves

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