In any relationship, mixed messages are the key to diminishing trust and certainty. When communication is based on deception to make others think one thing while you do or say another, you introduce confusion and sometimes even a bit of insanity.
People see us differently than we see ourselves. The problem isn’t when we think we’re better than others perceive us, it’s when we don’t believe people who say good things about us.
When you find yourself throwing away compliments in place of beliefs and self-perceptions that aren’t true, you stay in a self-perpetuating cycle of negativity and may never get out until you are ready to give up that sometimes you are just plain wrong.
There’s a great lie many of us use throughout life called a quantifier.
A quantifier indicates the quantity of something. Anytime you insert quantifiers in a statement about what you can or can’t do, you may inadvertently limit your capacity to succeed.
Here are some examples:
“Everyone knows that won’t work”
“He is always mad at me”
“I can’t do that because no one would like it” [Read more…]
Cheating might be the end of most relationships, but many couples have survived and thrived after an affair. There are many components to infidelity so it’s important to understand it from all sides.
In this episode, I explore the basics of cheating and what will allow your relationship to survive and heal after the affair. [Read more…]
Segment 1: Without a history of breakups, your first major one can seem devastating and life-ending.
In this segment, I help the newbie get through all the symptoms of the first major heartbreak.
Segment 2: When you think your relationship is horrible and you find yourself taking up all the slack for your deadbeat other half, are you creating your own misery?[Read more…]