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Getting Control Back – The Small Door Out of Depression – The Unforever Soulmate – Emotionally Disconnected Partners

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Getting control back – The small door out of depression – The unforever soulmate – Emotionally disconnected partners
July 3, 2016
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It’s a question to ponder, where do your loyalties lie, and what should you do with a secret you are committed to keeping? 

Are you at a job that feels like you are being dominated or controlled? Is there a way out of this without quitting?

There may be. I got a response from a listener who wrote before. They took my advice about her work situation and everything turned out for the better. Controlling bosses no longer drove her mad.

What keeps you at work you don’t like anyway? What’s motivating you to stay miserable?

In another segment, I talk about depression. Why does depression kick in so hard? And why is it so challenging to get back out of it once you’re in it?

No joy, no pain, no feeling at all. Even suicidal thoughts can come into play. Or sometimes you’re so apathetic you don’t even care about that.

In this episode, I talk about a small door, or portal, out of depression.

In the Ask Paul segment, I read a letter from someone who can’t stop obsessing over her boyfriend’s friendship with his ex-girlfriends and hates it when he talks about other girls in general.

And finally, I end the show with a few words on emotionally disconnected people.

Filed Under: Behavior, Control, Depression, Emotional Withdrawal, Human Potential, Marriage, Negative Emotions, Podcast Episode, Relationships Tagged With: Emotionally Disconnected Partners, Getting Control Back, The Small Door Out of Depression, The Unforever Soulmate

You still have to do the work – Protecting your kids from dysfunction – The chain of thoughts

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You still have to do the work – Protecting your kids from dysfunction – The chain of thoughts
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All this personal growth work is great and all, but you have to actually do the work in order for your life to get better.

The main reason for that is because you need feedback from your environment. You test, observe, test again, then take action. You learn through your results.

And in order to change your results, your desire has to overcome the results you’re getting now. If that happens, your life will change a lot easier.

Also in this episode, I read a letter from a mom who feels paralyzed by dysfunctional family members and is scared her child is going to pick up or become dysfunctional because of their bad behavior.

Family can sometimes be toxic, especially around children. Children know right from wrong, even when they’re exposed to toxic stuff, but as long as they have a healthy role model, sometimes the toxicity from others doesn’t rub off on them.

Be the best role model you can be and your child will do much better because of it.

In the last segment, I talk about how a subtle change in your thought can lead to a good outcome or a bad one.

Filed Under: Behavior, Family, Human Potential, Negative Emotions, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Thinking Tagged With: Doing the work to make life better, How to protect your kids from dysfunction, Why you're thinking of that right now

Taking the Opposite Advice – I Feel Unlovable and Unwanted

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Taking the opposite advice – I feel unlovable and unwanted
June 12, 2016
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Advice about anxiety, anger, sadness and other emotional issues on the internet seems to be the same where ever you look:
Think positively, breathe, count to 10, etc.

I’m generalizing, of course, but many times, it’ll seem like you’re reading the same article over and over again, as if the information is just being passed from blog to blog.

But, what would happen if you turned the advice around and did the opposite?

Funny thing is, that’s how I developed some of the tools I use and teach. I just take “normal” advice and do the opposite to see what happens. Surprisingly, this seems to work more often than not.

In another segment, I talk about a letter I got from a woman who “has it all together.” She found a great relationship, but then the guy left for seemingly no reason. Now she feels hurt, unlovable, and unwanted, and isn’t sure if her pain is from the past before the relationship started, or from the breakup itself.

This is a loaded episode. Hope it brings you value.

Filed Under: Human Potential, Negative Emotions, Podcast Episode, Relationships Tagged With: I Feel Unlovable and Unwanted, Taking the Opposite Advice

Acting from Integrity – Balancing Personal Growth with Relationship Growth – Knowing When You Are Out of Love – Making the Right Choices

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Acting from Integrity – Balancing personal growth with relationship growth – Knowing when you are out of love – Making the right choices
May 29, 2016
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A listener calls me out and tells me, “You couldn’t take a couple of minutes to answer me personally?”

I read her message on the air and respond to it. I always do my best to act from a place of integrity but did I mess up this time? 

Also, I received an email from someone in a relationship that may not work out. She wants to know how to balance her own personal growth with the work she’s done in her relationship (and not ruin that work). And she also wants to know if she’s done everything she can do before leaving the relationship. ‘Have I turned the last “Falling out of love” stone before I completely give in to the truth?’

When do you really know when you’re out of love?

There’s also another segment on how an Adult Child of an Alcoholic can trust themselves after living a life without it. Self-trust is a process and there is a way to have it again.

Filed Under: Ask Paul, Behavior, Decisions, Human Potential, Podcast Episode, Relationships Tagged With: Balancing Personal Growth with Relationship Growth, Knowing When You Are Out of Love, Learning how to act from Integrity, Making the Right Choices

The Kids Episode – For Kids And The Kid In You

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The Kids Episode – For Kids And The Kid In You
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The Kids Episode – For Kids And The Kid In You
May 22, 2016
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Kids get overwhelmed brains too. After hearing from a few kids that listen to the show, I decided to dedicate an episode talking about the hardships that kids face.

From school and getting made fun of, to home and some of the dysfunctions that can be present there.

Kids have it tough because the whole world is new and they are having experiences on the fly. Whereas adults already have so much experience under their belt that they may have forgotten the plight of being a kid and what it takes to get through some of life’s more challenging situations.

Even as adults, we have a kid in us that wants to cry, play, laugh, get angry, and more, so we need to learn to nurture the kid in us to have a more balanced, happier life. 

Whether you’re a kid or not, and whether you have kids or not, there is something in this episode for everyone.

 

Filed Under: Behavior, Family, Human Potential, Negative Emotions, Podcast Episode, Relationships Tagged With: For The Kid In You, Kids Episode

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