Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers
What do you do when someone you care about tells you a secret that affects other people you care about? Do you follow your heart or your values? Does your moral compass activate and make you express the secret to those who should know?
A dilemma like this seems like it has no real good answer. But I’ll share what I went through and how I handled it.
Are you just too sensitive or is the other person really being a jerk? I read a follow-up email from an episode a few weeks back and answer a question about the difference between being triggered and someone’s bad behavior.
In segment two, I get serious and talk about child sexual abuse and what might happen when the family secret is found out.
Sometimes we’re stuck with someone that doesn’t have our best interest in mind. Not only that, they may even have a not-so-pleasant plan to make us miserable.
What do you do with the toxic person that doesn’t want to, or can’t change? Is there hope when you’re in what seems like a no-win situation?
I try to answer that question in today’s episode.
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If you are in an emotionally abusive relationship, I created the podcast Love and Abuse to help you navigate through the difficulties.
When your top-level values are being met in your relationships, the rest of it usually works out. When they aren’t, you suffer, and the relationship often fails. Every relationship, whether it’s platonic, romantic, or family, contains components that make up what we value.
Trust contains confidence and honesty, whereas distrust contains fear and stress. I talk about that and read a few emails making for a variety show today.
Your mental health is too important to let those in denial ignore your suffering and invalidate your experience. The solution to someone’s ignorance could be to put the harsh truth in their face.
Or it could be to just accept that some people will always be blissfully unaware or in full denial. Acceptance that you can’t get through to everyone might be the one reality you can rely on.
