Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers
Hurtful people do a really good job of causing us to feel bad about ourselves.
Not only that, we end up repeating what they said or did to us in our mind over and over again. The emotional trauma can last for months or years.
In this episode I help transform the hurtful messages from others into empowering declarations that help us move on see them for who they really are.
What do you do when you’ve done a lot of work on yourself and feel like you’ve addressed the toughest issues in your life but still feel as if there is something missing?
What’s the secret to figuring out what’s keeping you from feeling fulfilled? By asking yourself the right questions, you’ll get the answers you need.
There’s a unique mind-mapping technique in this episode to help you figure out why you’re unhappy.
People see us differently than we see ourselves. The problem isn’t when we think we’re better than others perceive us, it’s when we don’t believe people who say good things about us.
When you find yourself throwing away compliments in place of beliefs and self-perceptions that aren’t true, you stay in a self-perpetuating cycle of negativity and may never get out until you are ready to give up that sometimes you are just plain wrong.
What are the steps you need to take to figure out the challenges that come into your life? Is there a process?
Would you know what questions to ask if someone you know shared that they were going through some challenges?
Join Matthew Bivens and I as we talk about our process of discovering issues and how to dig down through the layers.
If your life is filled with stress and an overall sense of unhappiness, you may be unknowingly making decisions that are hurting you in ways that you don’t even realize.
Picture a funnel for a moment. A funnel can be a great visualization of what happens when you make a decision. The stem (the small opening) represents the choice you have before you. The mouth (the wide part) represents the outcomes that manifest because of those choices.
I like that visualization because a choice stems from a thought that leads to an action that could lead to massive change in your life. Your choice “funnels” out into the world, affecting you and everything in it sometimes.
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