The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers

  • Home
  • Deeper Learning
  • All Episodes
  • About
    • About Me and the Show
    • TOB Newsletter
    • Contact
    • Kind Words by Amazing People
    • Media Kit
  • Patron Support Program

Why you’re not getting a second chance

Why you're not getting a second chance
Why you're not getting a second chance
Episode play icon
Why you're not getting a second chance
May 17, 2020

When you get a second chance at a job, relationship, or anything that you wanted a do-over on, what’s the best way to show up?

Do you try to impress and show others how much you’ve changed? Or does that actually work against you?

Filed Under: Behavior, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Toxic Behavior Tagged With: How do I get a second chance?, I hope I get a second chance, Will I get a second chance?

Happiness dissolves when you don’t let other people know what your boundaries are

What does it take to honor your boundaries and live from that authentic place inside you? Do you earn the respect you deserve?

You might be surprised to find out that respect from others happens naturally when you honor yourself and your personal boundaries. Doing this shows the world who you really are, and what behavior is okay, and what is not.

You are worthy and deserve respect. Honoring yourself shows the world the type of behavior you will and won’t accept, improving your relationships and keeping you not only happier, but sane!

[Read more…]

Filed Under: Behavior, Blog article, Communication, Healthy Thinking, Human Potential, Identity, Negative Emotions, People Pleaser, Personal Boundaries, Relationships Tagged With: How can I honor my boundaries?, People keep disrespecting me, What are personal boundaries?

Judgment – The Ultimate Relationship Destroyer

Judgment can be one of the most damaging weapons in a relationship. It tells your partner that it’s not okay to be themselves.

This builds resentment in them and will eventually corrode even the most intimate relationships. Even if your relationship survives the corrosive effect of judgment, it still suffers.

This article explains how your emotional triggers form your judgments and how judging those closest to you can make you and everyone else around you miserable.

Judgment truly is the ultimate relationship destroyer. [Read more…]

Filed Under: abuse, Behavior, Beliefs, childhood, Control, Dysfunction, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Triggers, Emotional Withdrawal, Guilt, Judgment, Manipulation, Marriage, Negative Emotions, Relationships Tagged With: how to stop judging, Husband is so critical of me, judging in marriage, judging in relationship, judging my wife, Partner is always criticizing me

The Dramatic Victim Doesn’t Want Change

Have you ever met someone who complained about their circumstances but wasn’t willing to do anything to change them?  

In fact, if you were to suggest a possible solution to them, they would come up with an excuse or valid sounding reason on why your suggestion wouldn’t work. And the more you tried to help, the more flaws they’d find in your logic. 

The hard truth is that some people don’t want to change nor do they want others around them to help them change. People like this refuse to acknowledge the role they play in their misery and often blame others for their suffering. 

If you are intertwined with someone like this, you might have to be careful that you are not helping to enable this behavior. This type of person may find comfort in your attention to their misery. And as long as they are getting their needs met, they may not mind if you become miserable along with them as you try to help them.

[Read more…]

Filed Under: Behavior, Control, enabling, Human Potential, Negative Emotions, Relationships, Toxic Behavior, Victim Mentality Tagged With: Dealing with the victim mentality, How to deal with the chronic complainer, Some people are so dramatic

8 Steps to Becoming the Ultimate People-Pleaser

If you find yourself people-pleasing for love, attention, or fear of confrontation, then this is article is for you.

As a former people-pleaser myself, I’ve learned exactly what it takes to become very proficient at it. I’ve gained much wisdom since growing out of that phase of my life, so I thought I’d share with you my tips on how to become the best people-pleaser possible.

Of course, if you are already a people-pleaser, you may gain some extra skills reading this article.

Are you ready? Here are the eight steps to becoming the ultimate people-pleaser:

[Read more…]

Filed Under: anger, Behavior, Codependency, Depression, Dysfunction, enabling, Family, Insecurity, Negative Emotions, People Pleaser, Personal Boundaries, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Toxic Behavior Tagged With: How do I stop people pleasing?, Is people pleasing bad?, What is people pleasing?

  • « Previous Page
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • …
  • 26
  • Next Page »

Categories

Achieve Now

Get the book!

Click to buy anything on Amazon to support TOB!

Copyright © 2013 - 2021 theoverwhelmedbrain.com The Overwhelmed Brain, LLC All Rights Reserved

Privacy Policy - Anti-Spam Policy - Affiliate Disclosure

This site assumes no responsibility for any errors or omissions. The Overwhelmed Brain specifically disclaims any liability resulting from the use or application of the information contained in the blog, podcast, services, books and products, and the information is not intended to serve as medical, psychological, legal, financial or other professional advice related to individual situations. Do not use information found on this site, podcast, services, books or products to replace professional medical or psychological services.