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8 Steps to Becoming the Ultimate People-Pleaser

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If you find yourself people-pleasing for love, attention, or fear of confrontation, then this article is for you.

As a former people-pleaser, I’ve learned exactly what it takes to become proficient at it. I’ve gained much wisdom since growing out of that phase of my life, so I thought I’d share with you my tips on how to become the best people-pleaser possible.

Of course, if you are already a people-pleaser, you may gain some extra skills by reading this article.

This article is meant to be tongue-in-cheek but also contains an important reminder about how people-pleasing almost always leads to unhappiness.

Are you ready? Here are the eight steps to becoming the ultimate people-pleaser:

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Filed Under: anger, Behavior, Codependency, Depression, Dysfunction, enabling, Family, Insecurity, Negative Emotions, People Pleaser, Personal Boundaries, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Toxic Behavior Tagged With: How do I stop people pleasing?, Is people pleasing bad?, What is people pleasing?

Are you enabling the bad behavior of other people?

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Are you enabling the bad behavior of other people?
Are you enabling the bad behavior of other people?
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Are you enabling the bad behavior of other people?
October 21, 2018
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Do you enable behavior that you don’t like? Is it possible that the people that cause you stress do so because you are allowing it in some way?

This episode covers a very important topic that may help you get your power back if you adopt and apply the message.

For more on enabling bad behavior, be sure to tune into the Love and Abuse podcast. 

Filed Under: abuse, anger, Behavior, Betrayal, Codependency, Control, Dysfunction, Emotional Abuse, enabling, Family, Manipulation, Negative Emotions, Relationships, Toxic Behavior Tagged With: Are you enabling bad behavior?, When people mistreat you

Can You Make Peace with Your Cravings?

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I was chatting with a client recently and told her that over the weekend, I drank a soda. This may not be a shock to you, but it was for me because I haven’t had a soda in about twenty years.

I was at a horse farm with my girlfriend enjoying some time away from home, and this craving came over me. I really, really wanted a soda.

Every time I’ve tried to drink soda in the past (after I quit soft drinks), I got an instant headache. This was a blessing when I was getting off my soft drink addiction because it made the cravings a lot easier to reject.

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Filed Under: Addiction, anxiety, Behavior, Codependency, Control, Decisions, Desires, Emotional Eating, Healthy Thinking, Obsession, Regret, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Toxic Thinking Tagged With: beating myself up for giving in, I am addicted to sugar, Making peace with your cravings, what's missing in my life?

When a dysfunctional upbringing leaves you with nothing but broken tools

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When a dysfunctional upbringing leaves you with nothing but broken tools
When a dysfunctional upbringing leaves you with nothing but broken tools
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When a dysfunctional upbringing leaves you with nothing but broken tools
August 5, 2018
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Your level of function or dysfunction as an adult is almost always determined by the most unhealthy or toxic people in your family growing up.

When you are raised by those who didn’t or couldn’t love and support you as you deserved, you may have developed “broken” tools to deal with situations as an adult. When your emotional toolbox has a bunch of broken tools, you may keep getting the results you don’t want, causing you to stay unhappy.

In this episode, I help you identify those broken tools and what you can do to start utilizing them the right way, or even fixing them altogether.

Filed Under: abuse, Behavior, Beliefs, childhood, Codependency, Dysfunction, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Healing, Family, Healing, Healthy Thinking, Manipulation, Narcissism, Neglect, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Toxic Thinking Tagged With: don't know how to heal, dysfunctional childhood, No means to heal

How To Make Better Decisions To Get The Outcomes You Want

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If your life is filled with stress and an overall sense of unhappiness, you may be unknowingly making decisions that are hurting you in ways that you don’t even realize.

Picture a funnel for a moment. A funnel can be a great visualization of what happens when you make a decision. The stem (the small opening) represents the choice you have before you. The mouth (the wide part) represents the outcomes that manifest because of those choices.

I like that visualization because a choice stems from a thought that leads to an action that could lead to massive change in your life. Your choice “funnels” out into the world, affecting you and everything in it sometimes.

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Filed Under: Behavior, Control, Decisions, Desires, Fears, Motivation, Negative Emotions, Passion, Personal Boundaries, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Values Tagged With: How to make better decisions, I can't trust my decisions, i make terrible decisions

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