Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers
How much are you willing to risk to have the greatest relationship you can have? How much emotional connection do you want?
It seems the higher the reward, the more you have to risk. In this episode, I talk about how staying emotionally closed up or closed off takes away most of the human experience and keeps everyone you want to love at a distance.
If your life is filled with stress and an overall sense of unhappiness, you may be unknowingly making decisions that are hurting you in ways that you don’t even realize.
Picture a funnel for a moment. A funnel can be a great visualization of what happens when you make a decision. The stem (the small opening) represents the choice you have before you. The mouth (the wide part) represents the outcomes that manifest because of those choices.
I like that visualization because a choice stems from a thought that leads to an action that could lead to massive change in your life. Your choice “funnels” out into the world, affecting you and everything in it sometimes.
[Read more…]Have you ever listened to a motivational speaker and decided that you were going to make huge changes in your life – then a couple of days after the seminar, you lost all your motivation?
This has happened to me at least three times in my life. It took me several years to realize that motivation is a great short-term solution but a terrible long-term strategy.
What’s the fire underneath that needs to be burning in order for you to follow through with the huge changes you want to make in your life? In segment one of this episode, I talk about motivation and what it takes to really start creating change in your life. (Hint: It’s not about attending more motivational seminars).
[Read more…]Segment 1: If you want to change someone’s life, sometimes all it takes is a heartfelt “Thank You” or compliment. But not in passing.
A thank you or compliment that makes them stop and process it can be quite powerful. [Read more…]
Asking yourself stupid questions can help you heal from old emotional wounds.
I use a “drill-down” technique to get to the root of fear, shame, guilt, and other emotions I don’t like feeling. When you’re drilling down into an issue you’re having, and you get to the point where you say, “Well, that’s a stupid question,” don’t stop, you’re on to something!
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